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Dear MIMsters: My Wife Wants More than I Can Afford to Give Her

I am a young man in my early thirties, married and expecting my first child. I come from a rich family but I cannot personally call myself rich. I would rather say that I am comfortable as I can afford the basic things of life and more.

I am a smart and hardworking civil worker, trying to work my way to the top of my career. Now, I don’t know what my wife thinks but it seems as if she thinks that I have this big money somewhere and should just bring it out to spend when she snaps her fingers.

Like I said earlier, we are not poor but my wife wants more than I can afford to give.

First, she wants to have our baby in the United States of America. Her argument is based on the poor healthcare system our country has to offer. Ok,  I agreed, but that’s not all. As I’m busy struggling to arrange funds to cover the medical, living and all other expenses that are trip may incur, she tells me she will only fly business class. I

Initially, I thought she was joking. She started whipping up sentiments about how uncomfortable it is for a pregnant woman to sit in an economy class on a long trip to the US. My people, the cheapest business class ticket to the US is about N1,200,000. I pointed that fact out to her but she doesn’t want to see reason. It has become a big issue and constant reason to quarrel in my home. What am I to do?

22 Discussions on
“Dear MIMsters: My Wife Wants More than I Can Afford to Give Her”
  • Some people don’t value what they have. U have a man that love and try his best to care and still no appreciation.

  • I think you need to sit your wife down and let her know you want to plan your own life. Not on the wealth of your parents. You are over pampering your wife. Deres nothing wrong with putting to bed outside d country but you shouldn’t go all out of your convenience to do it talkless of flying business class. I also tink you need to be very open to her as per your earnings so dat she wil understand u fully. Apart from living for now, you still need to plan your future. God wil give you wisdom

  • I can see u truly love ur wife,just sit her down and explain things to her.make her to believe you.is good to love your wife but you won’t kill yourself for her ok

  • your wify is being a bit unreasonable but maybe a little transparency on your part as per your earnings and stuffs wil make her understand you better and also work within your budget. stay blessed

  • Wait ˚°ºoOoº°˚ is it compulsory she must give birth abroad? I have 3 kids n I gave birth T☀̤̣̈̇ dem all without complications in d general hospital! So madam make u no use azonto spoil ur blues by ur self!

  • Let her deliver here,wat nonsense!!!!!!! Tell her d trip has been cancelled totally she shld register in any govt hospital near u.they re not bad as pple claim.pple giv birth everday here d children dont die
    .bussiness class my foot!!!! I dont blame her maybe itz d way u both started.mtcheeeeewww

  • Exactly, Mildred, ?How you both started might be one of the reasons why she can’t be reasonable. What if you can afford it? She still should see it as a privilege and not a right. You’re the man, So man up, with love though. And take back the privilege If she fails to see it that way.

  • Your wife is nothing but all these fake instagram girl trying to show off what they cannot afford. Pls, ignore her and work towards to what u have. Do go and borrow ooo in dis economy

  • I just have a question n that is. Is your wife using a remote control on you?. How does she even contribute to the household. mtcheeeeew. Na u give her hand joor.

  • This is what happens when your spouse does not know how much you earn. Let your wife into your earnings by showing her your payslip and telling her the money that comes in and go out. When this happens, I think she will better understand you unless she is one of those money squandering ladies.

  • It’s obvious u spoilt her with money right from when u started asking her out. No need to ask,she doesn’t have a job of her own. She knows u can affird it. Just remember that she can’t have her first baby abroad and have subsequent ones in Nigeria. So how u handle this one determines how other children will be born. My advice is this,don’t overstretch urself. If u become broke tomorrow,she may walk away,don’t spend all ur savings on a venture that won’t give financial returns. Be a man and stamp ur authority. Sorry,but a woman with such attitude only came for d money. A real wife will have compassion on her husband and won’t insist on her own comfort.

  • most men loves sharp and sweet ladies for marriage but they forget DAT most of such ladies are too expensive to maintain. what I will advise u to do it DAT u stop pampering her and giving her all she request.(u can do DAT occasionally but not always o). if she wants to quarrel about it, act as if you didn’t hear her.

  • She’s been unreasonable. I can understand she wants to have her baby in the US, I want to have mine there too but saying it must be business class she flies, is been totally unreasonable and you need to stamp your foot down. She either flies economy, or have the baby here period.

  • You had better start curbing her excesses else you will to regret it when the chips are down. Make her understand that life isn’t a bed of roses and she needs to be prudent. What happens after the baby is born, will you need to start saving for a mansion in pluto?.. In as much as there is need for compromise, You seriously need to be FIRM and make her understand that why you won’t give in to all of her demands.

  • You had better start curbing her excesses else you will to regret it when the chips are down. Make her understand that life isn’t a bed of roses and she needs to be prudent. What happens after the baby is born, will you need to start saving for a mansion in pluto?.. In as much as there is need for compromise, You seriously need to be FIRM and make her understand that why you won’t give in to all of her demands.

  • Let her add her own money to balance up. After all d baby is for both of u. Next time don’t agreed or even start what u know u can’t finish pls stand ur ground n be the man n make her understand. Let her know ur income. Woman are good manager when we know how much we have

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