6 Questions To Ask When Married Life Seems Tough
By Rachel Wojo
After talking to a friend about relationships recently, I realized that there are some questions you should ask yourself about married life when things aren’t going the way you had anticipated — six questions to ask when married life seems tough. Or when the marital grass on the other side of the fence is looking so much greener than your own.
1. Am I Watering?
Have I been pouring into my marriage or sucking the life out of it? Without deposits of time to pour into a marriage, you can be sure it will dry up.
2. Am I Fertilizing?
Have I taken the time to seasonally nourish my spouse? Spelled out plainly: Do I remember important dates in our relationship? Do I encourage my spouse’s goals? Do I praise my spouse’s achievements?
3. Am I Pruning?
Sometimes we need to trim off a few dead ends to keep marriage fresh. When we’ve settled into habits that aren’t appreciated by our spouse, then it’s time to get rid of those habits.
4. Am I Weeding?
If bitterness has taken root and crabgrass is overtaking the whole yard, no wonder the neighbor’s grass is looking better. As my father-in-law prayed yesterday, “Lord, let us remember not to let the sun go down on our wrath but to forgive one another each day.”
5. Am I Seeding?
Those worn out places of marriage may need a little revitalizing! Do something new together. Try a new restaurant. Plan a weekend trip. Grow new areas of interest together! My hubby and I found running is a wonderful way to seed our marriage.
6. Do we need to seek professional advice?
How do we know when to seek marital counseling? When either one feels deeply that outside assistance is needed.
There are times when married life doesn’t just seem tough, it is tough. But the questions above are ones that can be used to take a step back and determine if we are ready to be part of the solution.
Rachel Wojo is wife to Matt, mom to 7, and sought-after blogger and author. She enjoys caring for her busy family, whose ages span 3 to 23 years and includes a special needs daughter. In her “free time” she crochets, knits, and sews handmade clothing. Ok, not really. She enjoys running and she’s a tech geek at heart.
Website: http://rachelwojo.com
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Wow dis r d tips I need right now MIS u guys r d best
These are great tips, if your spouse thinks alike!
very nice read, Some good insight!
Great tips. Noted
I’m not really fulfilling all these criterials right now but i’ll definately make it up to him.. Lol. Good tips though.
Cool tips!
Waah o mum to 7.thanks for d tips wl start doing those am not doing so well.