Dear MIM Readers: My Wife Is A Lesbian

We live in the US where they have gay rights.

My wife went to a boarding school back home in Nigeria. It was there she was groomed into a lesbian. Even though she went on to have sexual relations with other men, she never stopped being attracted to women. I had no idea about her sexual preferences while we were dating and even before we got married.

She’s had this friend, Ijeoma whom she went to school with. Ijeoma is not married till date but my wife and I have 3 kids together. As an only child, Ijeoma was like the sister my wife never had so I never quite saw anything wrong with their closeness. Of course, she was a constant guest in our home.

When we moved to the States, a year later, Ijeoma also relocated.

How did I find out, you may want to know? You won’t believe how. It was through the nanny camera in the baby’s room. I watched them in complete unbelief. I am still in shock and have not been able to collect my thoughts. I confronted her and she did not even try to deny it. She told me how she first started, way back from boarding school.

Ijeoma and my wife have been partners since they were teenagers.

I have not been myself since this shocking discovery. I have no idea how to handle this. We live in a country where such sexual orientation is supported. How in the world should I deal with this?