Dear MIM: How Do I Convince My Friend That I Regret My Actions & No Longer Want Her Hubby
I had a crush on my friend’s hubby and sent him a message expressing my feelings to him, and so on. Unfortunately, her husband spilled the beans. I know I’m bad and cry my heart out every day because of my actions. I really don’t know why I did that. I want my friend back but all efforts to prove I’m a changed person has been futile. I have betrayed her trust for me in so many ways and truely regret my actions.
I have tried to get respectable people to talk with her, knelt and begged for her forgiveness and she says that she has forgiven me but never replies my messages. She pretends not to know me when she sees me in town but that is not an issue because I always approach and greet her.
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My husband is getting suspicious because he doesn’t seem to understand why my friend pretends to not know us when we meet. She had been of so much help to us when all hope was lost, and even in her anger, she’s never paid me back in my own coin.
Judge me, curse me, insult me; I know I deserve it. But please advise me on how to prove myself to this friend after all I did. I have given my life to Christ and would be happy if at least this friend could say hi to me when we meet. She has been so much help to me and my family and I want to show her that I appreciate her and cherish our friendship.
I allowed the spirit of coveteousness take charge but I’m a changed person now. Please help me out.
I would do just as your friend is doing(or worse).Assuming the husband was the wayward type and u succeeded in your plan,I’m sure you won’t be saying this.She may have forgiven you but will keep you at arm’s length.Go make friends with someone else because she is done with you
Hmmmmmmm. In my honest opinion, please leave your friend alone. Let her want to come around herself which is most likely impossible in this case. If truly you have changed, then leave her alone please. You hurt her bad and you don’t expect her to just be friends with you once more even as you say you have changed.
And you are married. Mmh. Your friend has forgiven you. Appreciate that. Thank god you have realised your wrongs and asked God to forgive you. Your friend is right to keep a distance from you. Respect that decision. Her husband is a good man. Who knows what could have happened if he was not. Be good. Maintain the values of christianity.
Na Wao oooo for some lady.
Had I know always comes at last
Am not in position to judge or insult you but what I will suggest is that if truly you have repented then let it go and leave her to make up her mind. Don’t force things and don’t overdo it cos that won’t solve anything rather it will complicate issue.
nawa ooo,married woman looking for besties hubby
If really u have repented, forgive yourself then ask d holy spirit 2 help u talk 2 ur friend so dat she can truly forgive u, as per her friendship, forget it, she will want 2 be more careful with. The truth is dat, dat closeness will never be there.
Poster I take God beg you please leave that girl and her hubby alone..you tried to attack her but God pass you..shameless woman
God has forgiven you and she has forgiven you, what else do you want. Deal with it, she can never trust you again. Try and avoid her too cos seeing you is a constant reminder of what you did so for her sake, try and avoid her too. For trust again, forget it. You lost TOTALLY this time. Let her be. Find peace with God and make new friends.
Hmmmmm, Nawa for you ooo, plz just let her be am sure with time she will come around but she won’t be able to trust you ever again#shikena#
Na wa o, so u are even married, my candid advise is dt u should 4get her, cos she will never trust u again, thank God u have change, dt’s most important tin and dt she has forgiven U, i also thank God 4 ur friend husband. Embrace God as ur friend, he will never let u down
Madam u can’t eat your cake and have it that’s d reward of trying to snatch someone else’s husband
Nawa for you o, abeg let the poor woman be jare after all she has forgiven you. Abi you want her to keep rendering the assistance ney? You never know what you have until you loss it.
Go fuck yourself…
Let her be. U ruined it all. Live with it
just dont know what to say
i even thought u were single
Everyone has spoken well. Give her time to heal and move on
If you were to be in your friends shoes, you will do the same. So thank God she has forgiven you and move on. I’m sure your friend is hurting so bad and dats why she pretends you’re not there when she sees you in town. Seeing you would definately remind her of your betrayal. You cant eat your cake and have it o. Accept the fact that she can never be friends with you again. Even her husband won’t allow her
What you did was terrible, may God forgive you. For me you have two options, first to leave the poor lady alone and stay on your own, or to confess to your husband, take him to your friends house and kneel before your friend and her husband to apologise, if you have truely changed as you claim. Bless you.
Why are you so desperate to become her friend again? Do you want to try and snatch her husband a second time? Maybe this time around you’ve gotten reinforcement – #jazzthings! If I were your friend, I will not only ignore you, I will report you to your husband and ask him to WARN YOU off me and my family COMPLETELY!!! Please for heaven’s sake let that woman be!
My thought exactly
Assuming the guy is shallow minded like you, the two of you would have gotten to bed before you will realize what you’ve done.
The question never stops in my head “WHY” why go after ur friends hubby when u have ur own? We’re u driven by jealousy or evil sexual feeling? You dnt even have the answer so how would I even understand ur motive. Poster! TRUST is like a broken egg or a straight clean sheet. Once broken or roughly handle it, you will NEVER get it back to its original state. The smoothness will be gone for good. So if u r looking for the kind of friendship u originally shared b4 the incident happened then forget it coz it will never be. Ur friend cold have lost her marriage due to ur insensitive, carelessness or selfish act. Pls lie on ur bed just as u made it and leave ur friend and her family alone. Put more effort in taking ur hubby’s mind off what’s going on. And pray ur friend do not go reporting u to ur own hubby.
You’ve ruined the friendship already.be glad that ure forgiven.just leave them alone.
Trust no one even your best friend,the heart of men is desperately wicked.Madam stay on your own please.
Come to think of it! keep yourself in her shoes. it’s often said once bitten twice shy. so you expect her to behave as if nothing happened? No madam things doesn’t work like that and i assure you if you were in her place you will do even worser than that
After all this you still refer to yourself as her friend? If the hubby did not open up to her would you not have ruined her home pls go get a life and let her be she has done u d best favour forgiveness. With friends like you who needs an enemy oshi