Was I Wrong To Walk My Hubby’s Friend & Family Out of My Home For This?
My hubby’s friend, his wife and children came visiting early last year for two weeks.
I did everything humanly possible to make my hubby’s friend & family comfortable. I even brought out the things I usually don’t use my house in order to please them. However, I noticed from the very first day that my husband’s friend’s wife has an attitude.
She expected me to cook 8 times daily like she does in her own house (they eat a lot) while we eat twice daily in my house (we are light eaters). But I made sure I cooked 3 times everyday because of them. Soon after, she started shopping for her own things and making her own meals for her family in my home without my permission but I chose to ignore her.
One day, I decided I would ask her hubby if there was anything I had done wrong and also to plan a surprise birthday for her with her husband. So, I called her hubby aside. I had not even started speaking to her hubby, when she came in and started shouting at me.
She shouted, “If you have marital problems, don’t talk to my husband about it.” At first, I was shocked because this is a woman I barely know and I only got to know her through her husband. I was so shocked and angry and angry at the same time about what just came out of her mouth. I could no longer stick her attitude and numerous stupid comments. So, I got furious and told them to pack their things immediately and leave my house that night. Did I over react?
Hmmm this case is complicated oooooo. To me you said it out of anger but ensuring they actually leave that night would be over reacting. But however the did has been done but just learn to control your temper when angry so as not to say things that you will regret later.
You mean she should have allowed them spend the next second in her house? No way, she did the right thing jari
My dear! You weren’t! At-all!… What you don’t want, you don’t watch!
That was the best solution,explanation can come from afar,no need to explain to an arrogant woman right under your roof expecially when her husband is not interceding and even at dat the seed of suspicion has been planted so your solution to ease suspicion was actually the best.
My dear, you were pushed to the wall,and you did the first thing that came to your mind,I know you wouldn’t want to hear this,but you did overreact, if she had come to your house with her children only,it would have been a different case,she came with her hubby,you should have respected that man and most importantly your husband,because both of you planned to invite them.you really really overreacted but I don’t blame you,you acted by instincts.
U didn’t overreact. Some women just need to be treated dat way to humble them
Hmmmmm
For me No…… her hubby go deal wt her personally cause she’s a disgrace
That woman is selfish to the core. Dear please create out time to apologise to the husband cause by now he must be feeling bad as a result of his wife foolishness
It’s well with u
She’s really got issues.However,I understand your reaction as you both didn’t get along well.I’m of the opinion that you should have waited for your husband to return then you table the matter.Hope oga no vex as you pursue im friend family comot o
Yes you have overreacted. You should have involved your husband. Then you all will resolve what happened instead of telling them to leave.
No u didn’t
Yea, u overreacted
Abeg u overreacted; don’t listen to anyone telling you that you did not.you should have told your husband that you won’t want to see them again after this visit whiile you stomach her rubbish for the main time. Shebi na only 2weeks they for stay? Anyways; this matter is stale so y r u bringing it up again (it’s a yr or more already So let bygone be bygone)
Imagine o?
Act in anger in haste, regret at leisure. Yes you did. You know that you you that is why you are not at peace. You seem not to have discussed all the issues that were bugging you during the entire visit and were simmering. You were not a gracious host and not accomodating at all. Your guests felt it, especially the wife as women are very sensitive as we all know. If you did not want guests and wanted your home to remain as is, you should not have agreed to host the family or any other family in future. And to turn them out at night, embarrassing your husband in the eye of his friend.
If the family are heavy eaters did you expect them to stop for 2 weeks, especially if the children are used to it. I think she did you a favor by not emptying your fridge and pantry by buying their own additional food. She also did not take up your time by cooking their own additional food.
Very well said. I also think the poster was not a nice host at all. She never took her foodstuffs but rather bought her own things and she’s not allowed to cook in the kitchen? That very very bad of the poster. Something tells me she never wanted them in the house in the first place so their presence was irritating her.
Come to think of it, eating 8hrs a day is an exaggeration. Cos that means they would be eating every 2hrs and imagine how many minutes it can take to cook even the quickest meal. Poster, like i stated earlier on, you were not a welcoming host and your guests felt it. You even said she expected you to cook for her 8times a day which to me was a lie cos she was doing the cooking by herself.
You are here because your hubby is probably pissed and i won’t blame him for that.
That’s exactly what i will do. Good radiance to bad rubbish. This woman isn’t even your friend, she’s just married to your husband’s friend. I don’t give people shit, so i don’t have any space in my life for shit.
you kinda overreacted.the did has been done call the man and apologize to him and the woman too
Hmmmmmmm
Hmmmmm you did the right thing, but you have given time, maybe the next day
Dear poster, you overrated joor
I can advice rightly if only i can hear the other wife ‘s side of the story
Dear sis, if truely such came out of the woman, then truely there’s a problem with ur marriage….. possibly discussed btw her hubby ad yours privately… since men can’t really keep secrets he might ‘ve disclosed to his wife too.
Secondly, what makes u think ur hubby isn’t or doesn’t like heavy eating or would love to eat 10x a day? Sometimes we women form a cloud over our head ad force our men to accept the standards of how we want things done, thereby terming oneself “perfect wife material ”
Thirdly Madame, when a man loves ad respect u, he will hardly want to do anything to stop ur “am the best ” attitude, but he surely is suffering inside… I will advice you to sit down ad listen to this other lady, understand her ad correct ur mistakes.. if u have never known her ad she makes such comments…. then something is cooking
Lastly always remember words said in anger always are true reflection of who you are…calm down ad listen to her else you loose your man
You overreacted…. how would you feel if the friend were yours and your husband reacted the way you did. especially asking them to leave without his knowledge and at night! What if something happened to them,ull later blame d devil abi? A man is d head of his home, u just belittled your husbands headship…and as for the other woman, she wasn’t mature at all, if she sensed your attitude she would have convuncr her hubby to leave…either way both of you did not act mature.