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Dear MIMsters: What Did I Do Wrong That Deserved My Baby And I Sleeping in Jail?

Dear MIMsters: What Did I Do Wrong That Deserved My Baby And I Sleeping in Jail?

I want justice from the Almighty.

I met this guy in my third year in the university who told me he wanted to marry me. He was not working when I met him. Whenever he came to visit me in school, I would cook for him and even share my little pocket money with him, would encourage and was always there for him.

I got pregnant, told him about it and told me to keep it that he was going to see my people. Soon, he stopped calling me three months into the pregnancy. The only money he gave me was fifteen thousand naira which I used to register for ante natal. With my money, I bought all necessary baby things and also paid for my delivery.

I was wept all through my final year exams but still managed to pass by the grace of God. He got a job and was transferred to Lagos and stopped calling me or sending me money for eight months. I reported to his sister who picked a quarrel with me and told me that I’m washing my dirty linen in public.

He came to visit me in April this year and assured me that things would soon be okay. He still slept with me meanwhile he was actually planning to get married to another woman. I checked his phone and saw pictures of him and the woman in the uniform. She is an elderly woman in her early forties.

I sent her a whatsapp message with his phone telling her that he has a daughter. She called him immediately around 1am on 5th of September, 2016. He got very angry because of the message I sent to the lady and denied that he doesn’t have a daughter when the lady called him in my presence.

I confronted him and he called police for me and my daughter and slept in the station till morning. .

I didn’t get violent with him. I asked him and said he was in a relationship and asked why has not told me and kept mute. He wanted to leave my house in Abuja at around 1am but I refused and removed the keys and hid it somewhere. That was when he called the police that I held him against his wish
I refused to open the door because it was late and does not know anywhere around my house. He is a road safety officer based in Lagos. He called his sister and told her that if anything happened to him that I should be held responsible.

What did I do wrong? I want God Almighty to vindicate and fight this battle for me.

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  • He didn’t marry u my sis and as such owe no obligations irrespective of the child. Pls let him go and move on. If he remembers ur daughter, good, if not God is ur strength.

    • I also think women should know when to let go. The more you insist, the further he will go. It is a pity an innocent child is involved. Pls poster, get a life of success for yourself. This guy doesn’t deserve your love. Work hard, pray hard, care for your daughter and cut him off completely, he will surely come back when u do dis, but if u ever consider him, let ur relationship be on ur terms. Pls just let go, hmm

  • My dear painful as it is, you have to let go. Don’t force yourself on him so you won’t regret in future. Being a single mum is not a crime. Your God ordained husband is on the way. Thank God you discovered on time before taking in again for him. Leave vengeance for God(He is master in that department). If you can take care of your baby alone, then severe all links with him and his family for denying your baby

  • God can’t fight a battle you brought on yourself. I am sorry to be blunt with you. A man that leaves you for months, comes back and you just open your legs and allow him in just like that? I mean he is not even your husband. Why are you acting so desperate? What business did you have texting the other woman and informing her he has a daughter? You think he regards you and your daughter? Better leave that man and move on with your life. And yes you deserve to be in jail for holding a man against his wish. When will women learn to stop acting foolishly and desperate? Smh. You are asking God to fight for you as if he raped you. It was consensual sex that produced a baby, he doesn’t owe you nothing. Let him go but make sure he takes care of his child by paying child support.

    • @ mon Gemini, you are one of dem abi? Do U know what it take to love someone? U said he own him no explanation look at U,,let me tell U what U don’t know, we are not on the same page with U men, we are co worker with God is Him who cause productivity not we women, so if He want to create a very great personality. He brings in stupid nd coward man like yourself into a very Unique nd wonderful person like the lady in question U see who U are now? Ode! My lovely baby go on it not easy but God who says many are the children of a desolate woman than he that have a husband will see U through His your husband trust Him He will provide,He will protect,He will deliver, so just stay on your own.

    • God bless you triples …. Why the hell is she forcing yourself on him when the sister had shown her that she is not welcome into their family…. move on my dear and be careful at the next man coming.

      #greatlessons..#allownotyourselftobeusedasexampletoothers

  • Move on with your life, a man you forced to be with you can never show you love and as a mother, you and your child deserve to be loved.

  • I can clearly see your guy is marrying this woman out of frustration. I believe he wanted to milk this woman to cater for the child. But my dear I have been in your shoes before. It’s not easy to let go particularly now you have a child and you have invested in him too. Dear let go and let God. I fought myself to let go and today although I can have him if I want I do want to because he has been replaced with a far better man. You can’t force someone to love you. If he’s yours he would come back. Just let go. You would be glad you did. At Mon Gemini or whatever you were very heartless.

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