Dear MIMsters: Which Of These Guys Is It Wise To Settle For Considering All These?
I’m in a state of confusion now.
I’m the only child to my parents and have a 6-year-old son. I gave birth at age 17 and my baby papa came to see my parents so he could rush the marriage before people noticed that I was pregnant but my parents refused because they wanted the child.
Till date, my family and his family are not in good terms. He has money but he is stingy and his family controls him. However, since I gave birth, he has been disturbing me. He even threatened me recently, saying that he would commit suicide if I don’t come back to him. Now, he’s been missing for 4 days.
Meanwhile, in 2014, my parents introduced me to a guy that a prophet said is my husband. He is an only son but I don’t love him and he is not that financially buoyant. He is still on my neck and so fond of my son – my son likes him too.
However, I just found out I’m pregnant for this guy I’ve been dating for 7 months now. He has said I should decide on what I want but he is not ready to settle down now. What pisses me off is that he is financially okay and we both love each other.
My mum has said I shouldn’t touch the pregnancy but I don’t want to give birth out of wedlock again. Now, I don’t know if I should just abort the baby and go back to my son’s dad if they find him (I don’t want him to die because of me) or marry the other guy who has been disturbing me for a relationship.
He has said he will come and start the marriage rites by December and will accept my pregnancy but I don’t love him. Should I just abort and continue with my present boyfriend or keep it and face whatever happens on my own?
I have a business and I’m also a part-time student. I live on my own but in the same city with my parents and all three guys. Please advise.
Waiting to read comments. This one pass me abeg.
Na wah for you oooo. See hw u r just getting pregnant up and down. I think u shld have married ur baby daddy and save urself all these wahala
Hmm. What kind of mess have you put yourself in my dear. You got pregnant for man. You date another and get pregnant for another man. What at all do you want in this world. It’s not that you are suffering financially. My advice is to stay away from all of them and put yourself together. None of your man are serious. And forgive me but you are not ready for a marriage. Just stay away from all men and put yourself together before you have all your kids with different men. Hmm. Seriously my dear you are not ready to settle down.
My dear u hv d answer to dis question
You don’t want to get pregnant, you have not decided on who to settle with yet you are having unprotected sex. The 1st was a mistake, this second pregnancy is a deliberate act. I’m sure you are mature enough to know unprotected sex results in pregnancy. If you want to know if you love a man, don’t have sex with him. Sex is spiritual as well as physical. So it has a way of affecting your decision of a life partner. Don’t get it twisted: love and sex are 2 different things
People, especially women should learn to respect and value themselves. This is a whole lot of mess you put yourself into.
What exactly is happening with you. You sound as confused as your situation is. How did you allow your life to be this tangled up? Now, it’s time to wake up. Before you get pregnant for a guy, you should be married to him. You are not matured for marriage o……because with the way you are sounding, you will not be able to stand the test that comes with marriage. My advise: don’t abort the child. Have your baby, return back to your parents house and let your mum nurse the child with you. When you ‘re done, relax and have some soul -searching. I think you will find the answer you need. Ask God to show you and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you. Have you given your life to Jesus?
u are even confusing me… why just open ur legs fr anything.just getting pregnant anyhow font u use condoms if u cant zip up. u know what to do
My Dear keep the child and stop opening your legs for men, you don’t need men! Give your life to Christ, he would see you through
which kind story be this? ur parents have their share of d blame. abeg d one threatening to kill himself shld run far cos I don’t think he will be a happy man if he marries u. ur wahala is up d roof.