Dear MIMsters: How Do I Keep A Diabolical Mother Like Mine Out Of My Home?
I’m the first daughter of my parents and we were 4 girls but lost one 3 years ago and my mother is diabolical.
I was 7 years old when my father left us 2 days after the birth of last my sister and all because my mother gave birth to another girl. After my dad left, my mother took us to live with my grandmother. I lived with her till I finished secondary school and decided to go stay with my mother to further my education.
Living with my mother wasn’t very good as she always expected me to bring money to her. Sometimes, she would pick a quarrel with me and say all kinds of bad things to me and wouldn’t care if I’m hurt or not.
After I got a job and started giving her money from my salary, we became friends. Since then, I don’t recall my mom and I having a conversation as mother and child without her mentioning money and she’s never asked me where I get the money from to foot house bills and pay my sibling’s fees etc. I got frustrated living with her.
My mom once sent me out of the house at midnight because of her male friend. She was always bent on ruining any relationship I had if the man wasn’t rich. If I tell her anything I want to do, it will not work and everything I don’t tell her works. I really felt she didn’t want me to get married, so I stopped telling her things about me. She said I think she’s a witch and has succeeded in destroying my previous relationships.
I planned to get married before telling her, so I relocated to meet my fiance in the country where he works. Though I didn’t tell him why I wanted the marriage that way, he agreed and we got married in court, then met my family later. On meeting with my mother, I noticed she was shocked and confused that I got married but she couldn’t ask me why I did it. The traditional rights was done and my husband returned to work and decided I to stay with my sisters for a while before joining my husband who lives in another country.
I was surprised when my mom came to tell me to bring money for her to buy chicken and white clothe so they can do some sacrifies on my behalf to make my husband do all I want for me. I just didn’t say a word and didn’t give her any money, I don’t know what she has been doing on my behalf but I pray that God will forgive her.
Now she knows that I’m pregnant and is expecting to come whenI deliver. I dread her visit. I don’t know how to keep her away from coming because I don’t want her problems in my marriage. My husband and I love and respect each other, and he’s been my best friend since courtship till now. I’m afraid that my mother might use diabolic means to create problems for us. Please, I really need advice on how to handle this situation.
what’s stopping you from traveling to the country where your husband is to have your baby. I mean if you dread your mom’s visit so much, then go join your hubby. I suggest you keep your distance with your mom because it doesn’t seem like she wishes you well at all.
Chai!!!some mothers ehnn!! Pray without ceasing Ooo!
Are u not a christian or don’t u attend a bible believing church? The only solution is to bring out ur mind and fast and pray,call prayer partners,call prayer warriors to join. U. God will surely arrest her
Its a tough decision to make. But you and your hubby should pray very well. If hubby does not believe in things like”your own mother” kind of statement or attitude you have to take the mantle of praying fervently. Locate a strong man of God to help you with prayers as well. God will reveal to you what to do. And since you know the ways of your mother don’t talk to her about anything at all. Protect, guide your home with prayers. God will help you!
My dear keep a distance from ur mum then tackle her spiritually she must confess
Why will your own mum behaves this way, pls don’t discuss your family with her, be caution when discussing with her, you should not invite her, visit her whenever you want to see her
Wow…..when you have a good mom, you don’t realize what God has done for you.
My dear keep your distance away from her for now while you tackle it with fervent prayer. God almighty will surely take control. She most not come visit until it is settled completely with prayers. The Lord is your strength
This sounds like what I watch in home video(mostly mama G’s roles). Why not join your husband, give birth there and tell her you don’t have money to send for her transportation. Meanwhile pray very hard because there is no barrier in the spirit realm
hmmmmmmmmmmm though tho but mayb you but did she know you were pregnant
y not go join ur hubby in his country
Hope it’d not late but u can tell her your mum in law is coming or u say u don’t v t.p or better still, move to a friend’s place.