Dear MIMsters: How Do I Unwrap Hubby’s Relationship With This Mystery Caller?
Please, how do I handle this puzzle?
My husband has not been employed for the past 10 months but has some investments that brings him some income monthly. We have an ongoing building project, so, anything he makes goes into the project. I am employed and a certain percentage of my monthly pay also goes to supporting the project. The rest is spent on upkeep of the home, ranging from feeding, paying bills to toiletries, and so on.
I can’t afford to buy clothes. In fact, all my underwears are torn because my salary can’t do for my family of 3 and still sponsor shopping.
Now, the issue is this, there’s this number that calls my husband every day. He didn’t save the number and when the person calls and I am there, my husband won’t answer the call. Today, I saw a message on my husband’s phone from that number. I also found out he had first sent recharge card to the person, then, the person sent a message saying he/she doesn’t have food at home, that my husband should help.
I am bothered because there’s this lady he usually sent #5000 to every month when he was working. I saw at least 5 deposit slips of payments made to this lady and I am sure they have no business deal. It is the same amount he usually gave me when he was still employed.
When I asked him about it, he got very angry and told me not to bother him. I heard the lady in question is no more in the town we reside because she’s pregnant for another married man.
Please, how do I track this unknown number/ person that recently started calling him to be sure that it’s not that same lady he used to send money to. I feel cheated and deprived seeing that my husband put other people’s need above his own home.
I am currently 8 months pregnant with our second child and my husband hasn’t given me one dime for the baby things. I single-handedly bought all the items listed by the hospital and when I asked him why he didn’t even bother to contribute, he only said sorry.
He recently sent #20000 to that lady again, claiming that she’s hospitalized and couldn’t get money to pay her bills. What is going on? Please help me with reasonable advice.
Your husband is taking u for a fool. He is not contributing to the running of the home and yet has money to spend on girls mtschew. You need to trash this out with him oh don’t let it slide. He owes you an explanation. Let him tell you who the mystery caller is and what she wants with him period.
Haaaaa,God pls don’t give me dis kind of husband o
Hmmm madam shine your eyes o. You have all these facts and you are still asking for advise? I just hope that ‘another married man’ is not your husband. And I also hope you are not contributing to building a house for another woman to occupy upon completion. Well for advise:Stop contributing to that building project rather open an account and save that % of your salary(I have seen things). When you show a man you can take up his responsibilities, he abandons them for you. Start withdrawing gradually eg stop paying NEPA and DSTV bills, please don’t pay school fees, etc. You’ll be there sacrificing your all while he is enjoying himself and the world is seeing a responsible father and husband.
NB:My view would have been different if he wasn’t taking you for granted by keeping side babes
This is a case of monkey dey work baboon dey chop. This guy is footing another woman’s bills and I believe it’s the same lady pregnant for a married man which might be your hubby.
This is a wicked act.
Shine your eyes very well and on time before it becomes a story that touch the heart.
I think u r being used
1st of all download caller application on ur phone or use any of ur friends ophone that has caller application this Will help u to get her name and if Lucky herjob and pics . Then u will go on fb search for her among ur husbands list of friends or fb search engine.
2ndly check were d project is and constantly mo monitor it . But for me o I will stop contributing for the project until when I would have enough information to about the other woman . Pay any other bill u presently enjoy the services e.g nepa , dstv and also ur ur children school fees ,
3rd Cook up a story of ur salary been slashed ( maybe 1/3) open an account with a bank that is not on his route save ur money and always tear the teller immidiately.
4thly Dont act harsh not until uve got enough information to confront e.g like having her pics , knowing where she works or what she does , who impreginated her , u must know her house , but do not confront her o , with enough info then u will know what next to do.
Abegi who is the other lady, am sure you know her, stop paying any bill again, if he can be a good Samaritan to the other woman he should also do for his family, start saving for yourself, don’t be caught unaware o
hm.mmnnn.are u sure d so called married man she is pregnant fr isn’t ur hubby