Dear MIMsters: What must I do to get my life back on track?
I need serious advise that will help put me back on track.
I met this guy in 2010 but we started a relationship in 2012 that led to a formal family introductions. One month to the wedding, this guy said he was no longer interested in the wedding. All efforts to make him change his mind fell on deaf ears.
About 2 months after the proposed wedding day, he came back begging me with some of his family. The reason he gave was fear. I forgave him but didn’t pay much attention to the relationship. I later discovered that it was another girl that made him do what he did, in July, 2013. He said he didn’t know who to pick between me and the other lady and suggest we should go and pray. I told him I was not interested in that, that he should go with the other lady and so, we went our different ways.
In 2015, he came back saying I’m still the best out of all the ladies he’d met and he’s praying to get a confirmation from God to go ahead to marry me. He also begged for forgiveness. I told him to keep praying and leave me until he receives a confirmation. Since then, he’s been on and off trying to see if it could work between us.
Last month, all his family members, including his dad and mum started putting pressure on him to marry me. They are also begging me to please forgive him and marry him. With his family involvement, I’ve been having a change of heart but this guy is still not ready yet. He’s always looking for an excuse not to marry me, from spiritual to physical.
He’s 38 years and I’m 31. He really has no permanent job but is saying God has called him to be a full time Pastor. Now, he’s telling me to go for deliverance at MFM church, if I want to marry him. He also said I put get into covenant with him that I will join his Pastoring ministry, leave my vision and my career to completely be with him. He said he can’t have a separate vision and leave me to have mine, that there will be a clash in the future.
I’ve been telling him to let go of me that it’s not by force we get married but because he knows that I love him so much, and emotionally weak, he doesn’t want to let me be. His brother is saying we can’t leave each other as we’ve done formal introduction which heavens recognises, that we’re just wasting our time instead of getting together fast.
With everything he’s said and done, I have not been able to love any man again. And I’m afraid I will continue my life this way. I don’t know what to do to get my life back in order.
Better forget that confused man and get a life outside him and his gimmicks. That guy is not ready and even if he is, he has shown you the kind of person that he is. He will leave you at the slightest and go with another woman if the occasion calls for it. At 31, you should be able to decide for yourself what you want with your life. Imagine him giving you rules and regulations on how to live your own life because he wants to make you his wife. Please drop the idiot like it is hot and don’t give into any pressure from whatever quarters be it your family, his family, his brother or himself. What his brother said to you is a huge lie.
he isbanking on ur weakness….in simple terms u havnt found a man yet move on…….
The man is confused and is not ready for marriage institution. You are playing this on and off game with him because you have the time and you’ve not allowed a serious man in your life. My dear get busy and mingle. Tell him your stand and don’t compromise so you don’t regret in future
Leave him ,be strong ,Go to God in prayers.there is nothing the Holyspirit cannot answer if you ask him.there are clear signs that he will be an undecisive person in marriage which is dangerous and yes you are not yer married, you can leave him,inform both families formally.make sure you don’t go into this marriage without peace.if you don’t have peace about him.Stop every intimacy if any and seek the face of God please for discernment
My dear am really short of words
This is not your man, May god direct your steps to the right one
Pls go get a life, don’t let anybody play wt ya emotions