Dear MIMsters: My Mum Needs Help!

I need help as I’m beginning to get torn apart.

I lost my Dad in 2010 and got married in 2011. Losing my Dad was a great trauma for my Mum. She’s just recovering from it as my Dad was her backbone. She was the last of 13 wives. Nothing has gone well since then for her because most of the other children who are grown ups didn’t treat her well though they’re all married.

None of the other wives lived with my Dad before he died which makes my mum the only well known wife. My father’s WILL didn’t favor us at all. Nothing for my Mum. He alone know why he did that and unfortunately for her she was a full house wife.

I’m the 1st of her five kids. Since then, my Mum’s life has been shattered. I’m beginning to lose it as I’m not able to help her financially and it’s hard for me to allow my Mum to come and stay with me as we’re just finding our bearing too. Things are not smooth for me and hubby at all. I feel guilty about my Mum’s situation. I feel less of a child as there is nothing I can do to help her out because I’m not working too. Hubby is just planning to set me up. I’m hating myself for this. Taking care of the other kids isn’t easy for her, though my immediate brother is sponsoring himself with music production while others are still in school.

She has severally open shops selling foodstuffs with the help of some of her people there in the house as the house is my father’s but the business is always collapsing. She claimed she can’t help it as they normally eat from what she’s selling and spend from it and before she realizes, her supplies would have dipped.

She came to my house today crying profusely that she is fed up and she hopes she won’t die of over thinking. This my Mum has once drank hypo bleach to commit suicide but only God saved her for us in 2013.

I asked her what she wants me to do as it’s obvious to her that me, hubby and kids are even struggling to survive and there is no one to assist her in the family. She said I should please find work for her as a nann,  so she can  get a salary. She thinks a lot. I’m scared she might become hypertensive. Please mother,do you think I should support my mum to get a nanny job? She is 47 years-old.

Put yourself in my shoes and please suggest how best I can help my mum?