Dear Mimster: Which of these two, do you think I should be with?

I am at a crossroad, so I need of your advice to help me decide which of these two men, I ought to be with.

I met this man 7 years ago when I was staying with my aunty. I was 14 and he was 28. He he told me he had a dream and in that dream he gave me a flower and then said he likes me. I had no idea it was a proposal.

This man has really helped me during my stay at my auntie’s place where I was badly treated. After my senior high school, he asked me to marry him. I told him I have always seen him as my elder brother and didn’t feel anything intimate for him.

He insisted that I am his chosen wife who was revealed to him in prayers. I don’t believe this because he has previously given me a fake revelation. I had symptoms of ulcer sometime ago because I was starving myself. He called one day and said he had a revelation that I had committed an abortion. Even though this was not true,  I intentionally said yes. So this is why I think he’s fake.

It’s been 7 years and he is still on my neck with this marriage thing despite all attempts to push him away. We are two different people and I don’t want to commit to a man I won’t be happy being with, even though I feel I owe him a lot due to the financial support I’ve been getting from him.  He thinks money is everything.

I met another guy whom I am really into. I opened up and told him everything about the first guy. At this moment, I am really confused. Should I marry the first guy who keeps pressuring me as a show of my appreciation or be with the one I truly love?