Dear MIMsters: He Keeps Asking for Forgiveness, Yet He Won’t Stop Cheating

I’m currently going through a lot of emotional stress and some health issues because my husband is a serial cheat. He’s been involved with none less than 20 women both sexually and emotionally but claims he has stopped, yet he won’t stop cheating.

I’m still young woman with 2 kids under 3 years old, living in the diaspora. He’s the worst liar I’ve ever met in my life. He can’t even take care of his financial responsibilities. I’ve told him he needs to leave very soon as I can’t leave the rest of my life this way. I caught an STD but thank God I’ve got the all clear.

Let me tell me you, emotional stress (mental health) is just as bad as domestic violence. I was a good wife to him and he would be no where in life without me. He’s excuse for not wanting to separate is that he loves the kids and wants to be in their lives “everyday”. Like heck did you ever stop to think of this when you were gallivanting about? Trust doesn’t exist anymore. He says I’m wicked and I have an unforgiving heart. Really?? He says if I can forgive him then I will see reason to want to stay in the marriage.

I know at some point I would forgive him but to stay married to him is a big NO. I’ve gone for counselling, read books, prayed etc and nothing is working. It is said that “once a cheat always a cheat”. I struggle a lot with this hurt and betrayal and atimes feel this marriage could work , but he keeps lying even for the simplest things.

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He always tells me that I’m the one with the problem that he doesn’t need counselling. This month makes it a year since I found out and my health has suffered over this time. Now, I need to be well for myself and my kids. I’ve got a bright future ahead and can’t see him in the picture. My dear mothers, after all of these would you advise me to still stay? My family is going to object to this move but I wear the shoes here! I’m going to find the strength to see this through and I will come out victorious.#new year new life