Dear MIMsters: I Thought We Were Building Our Lives Together Until I Made This Shocking Discovery
Should this marriage continue after I made this shocking discovery about my husband’s evil plans? I thought we were building our lives together.
Hubby and I are both bankers and we’ve been married for 6 years now with two kids. Though it hasn’t been easy, we have managed to build 2 houses and acquired another 2 plots of land together.
We decided to buy a plot in his mother’s name and put up a building for her in the village so that his family won’t be left out. Only for me to discover a will my hubby made willing all our properties to his two nephews. They are to be held in trust for my kids until they are 21-years-old.
I feel I have wasted my life. I have forgone all the pleasures in life to help this man and he betrays me. The most painful thing is he has only his name on all our documents except one building.
In the will, he stated that his share in that jointly owned property should be given to his nephews to hold in trust for my kids. I asked him why he did that and it became a fight. I decided not talk about it again but I can’t hold it anymore.
I have laboured, I have suffered and I have nothing to show for it. I intend getting a divorce so that I can get 50% of the properties. Please I need help and sound counsel.
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He is a wicked man. Get a divorce and get 50% of the property. you labored with him and you are not included in the will? This is how men cause trouble for their wives with family.
I wouldnt say divorce him cus our God speaks against it but pls go on yur knees n talk to God about it,ask for patience n his guidance. To show u wat to do n he will help u.
Outright wickedness,just be careful he doesn’t poison you oo!now that he knows you are aware.
I think you should talk to a very good lawyer before you take any steps. Pls don’t let him know that you’ve found out what he has in his will and make sure you’re well prepared for whatever will happen. I don’t think you need a divorce, you just need to separate your investments. Get a lawyer to prepare legal documents to state your shares in all the investments which both of you should sign. If he refuses then your lawyer will be able to advice you on the next steps to take.
My sister thank God you found out the kind of man he is in good time. No need to divorce him, now that you know he’s not trustworthy begin to have personal goals. Don’t struggle with him over those houses, those are the least of the properties you will ever have, from now on acquire whatever you can in your name alone, don’t do any joint investment with him again. Work hard and watch God bless you beyond your imagination. As a lawyer I always advise that couples should not buy properties jointly, it is always a problem. Instead they should both agree on those to be in the man’s name and those to be in the woman’s name, it is safer that way.
You better start praying like never before. If his family is wicked and know of the Will, my sister they will be killing him sooner than u imagined.
Sincerely, in human eyes your husband is wicked. The wicked is shameless and selfish, capable of doing the unthinkable. With that, I think you should not have given him the slightest hint of your knowledge in the Will. Watch your back now that you have questioned him about it.
Inform your pastor as early as possible, pray more and seek counsel from the wise. If possible call on your parents and his for a meeting. Let them be in the known. For all you know, he’s given the assumption that you solely depend on him.
My sister, my daughter, divorce might be the only solution in the heat of time. Don’t rush yet. Seek God and take counsel from the elders and pastors.
God help you dear. Sad indeed
Wow! This is outright wickedness! May you receive divine direction on what to do.