Dear MIMsters: My Marital Problems Started Soon After I Got Pregnant
My husband and I got married after dating for a few months. A month after our wedding, I got pregnant and then our trouble started. I thought this good news would have made us happier but it didn’t.
A few weeks into the pregnancy, there were complications for which the doctor advised me to abstain from having sex until after the first trimester. Initially, I thought it was fine but for the whole nine months, my hubby never touched me again.
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Throughout these nine months we were engaged in massive fights over trivial issues which broke my heart. In short, I have stayed for over a year and a half without having any intimacy with my husband. He has pushed the financial burden of running the house, feeding and baby care on me.
He is the kind of man who enjoys punishing me by depriving me of affection and sex even if he feels slightly provoked for whatever reason. This has led us to sleeping apart two years after we got married.
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Now, I am considering a seperation from him as I already feel lonely in this marriage. Will I be doing the right thing? Is my absence going to help him know my value or is it going to mess up things up completely?
This is very sad. I don’t think a separation will help since the birth of his child cannot even resolve your issue, he doesn’t even take care of his child and you’re already living your separate lives under the same roof. If this marriage still matters to you then you need to make efforts to restore it by changing all your attitudes that lead to quarels. It takes two to quarrel, if you become peaceful and loving around him, then his attitude will surely change too. You people were once in love, so bring back all the love. You should also pray for the restoration of your marriage. Be calm
Please separate. If the action makes him realize good and fine. If it doesn’t, then you might need to just move on. Life is too short to stay unhappy.
The Bible says that the man’s body belongs to the wife and vise versa. Wherever u worship, talk to your spiritual head so they can make him understand. Before u start all these pray that it will yield the desired result. You need him and he needs u. All the best
U never took a long tym to study ur kind of man wel just pray things get better but for seperation I say a No to dat
If you ain’t happy with a marriage, give separation a trial.