Dear MIMsters: Should I Confront My Friend Over This She’s Never Talked to Me About?


I have known this friend, Kemi since our secondary school days. We were so close that we became known to each other’s family. I need to know if I should confront her over this issue she’s never talked to me about.

Trouble started when back then in the days, she started having feelings for Kelvin who liked me. Since I did not like him in that way he asked my friend out.

When we were in SS3, on one fateful day, we went for Kemi elder brother’s birthday party where Kemi got drunk. Kelvin and I had to take her back home.

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When we got her home, I changed her clothes and left her with this cousin of hers who lives with them and went to my house. It was late and my mum would be worried.

I don’t know what happened that night and she didn’t tell me anything too.

A few years later when I went to visit her,  her boyfriend was at home that night. I didn’t think of anything cause I’ve been passing the night in their house. That night around 2:am, I felt a hand touching me, trying to remove my underwear.

When I woke up, it was her boyfriend and I shouted at him. I woke my friend up too. Kemi and her boyfriend both apologized and said he thought I was his girl.

We moved on with our lives afterwards. Now, we are both married but something happened last week.

When I was chatting with Kemi’s ex since we’ve always kept in touch I reminded him of how he broke my friend’s heart. He really cheated on my friend. I was even the one who advised my friend to let go of him. That’s how this guy told me how my friend, Kemi asked him to rape me because I betrayed her.

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I was like when how? He went further to tell me that Kemi even drugged my drink on his birthday day. I remember that I only had a small stout that day and I ended up vomiting blood. I also remember them telling me the drink was bad, making me vomit blood. I didn’t not think of anything else cause I trusted my friend.

I had no idea that she wanted to cause me pain because of what she thought I did to her on her brother’s birthday. She thought that I told Kelvin to rape her. This is the Kelvin that she has been sleeping with before that day.

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I got so angry after hearing this because this my friend is just like a sister to me. Should I confront her now?

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“Dear MIMsters: Should I Confront My Friend Over This She’s Never Talked to Me About?”
  • Yes please confront her about it. She should know you know what she did regardless when it happened. But please don’t hold grudges just let it pass. She might deny it or make a huge ish out of you.

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