Lagos Commisoner of Women Affairs Says Women Are The Cause of Domestic Violence | Gives Reasons

With the incidents of domestic violence against women seemingly on the rise in Nigeria, the Lagos State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, on Thursday, disclosed that many women, by their actions, are the cause of the menace recorded in the state.

The commissioner, Dr. Lola Akande, who was represented by Mrs. Olushola Falana, Director, Women Development Department, WAPA, made the observation at a programme on Management of Domestic Violence, organised by the ministry in Lagos.

According to their record,

Negligence,

Sophistication,

Misguided utterances,

Infidelity,

Use of abusive words and,

Gullibility on the part of the women, are some of the actions women display that induce domestic violence, Vanguard reports.

”It is no longer news that many women have lost their lives through domestic violence. The more we try to put the blame on the men folk, the more we will continue to turn blind eyes to the fact that many women are the cause of the domestic violence we see today.

This is because we fail to understand some important aspects of how most men are wired. Some women also cause violence by using abusive words and misguided utterances that can provoke the men.

But let me also state that a man who beats a woman is a beast, and does not deserve to live with humans. No matter how provoked you may be as a man, please, never raise your hand to beat your wife, ” she said.

Sadly, the culture of blaming the victim continues in this day and age. Apart from reinforcing the abuser, blaming the victims of abuse makes it harder for the victims to open up and seek help. Abuse is a choice. The abuser could have chosen to work away or initiate a separation rather than resorting to violence when provoked.