Are You Becoming an Abusive Parent? Check These Warning Signs

Adesua Iyoyojie

Some parents are abusive and won’t back down until a child bleeds blood.

The only language they understand is pain an if a child doesnt feel pain, they won’t back down. While most parents are honestly ignorant about the possibility that they are becoming abusive.

There is a thin line between discipline and being abuse which we as parents need to be aware of when we are crossing that line – especially as African parents.

Here are signs to help you determine if you are becoming an abusive parent:

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1. Choice of words
I heard a woman call her daughter a witch one day and almost jumped out of my skin.
That girl might grow up believing she looks like a witch.
If you use derogatory words on your kids. Check it you are fast becoming abusive.

2. Lost of trust
When your kids cant trust you with something serious because they know you will expose them.
You tell your neighbors serious things concerning your kids.
Correct and mock them in public.
You are killing their self esteem and that is psychological abuse.

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3. Hitting
When you hit them for the slightest reason.
Your child falls down, instead of hugging him or her, you hit them to stop crying.
When you hit them with harmful objects .
You are an abusive parent.

4. Constant comparison
When you compare them all the time to other kids. You abuse their self worth and confidence.
That is abuse on its own.

5 . Fear
When your kids sees you and begin to shiver, that is not discipline, you are installing fear.
It is better to be loved than to be feared.
When you find yourself always screaming ,shouting instead of counselling.

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6. Public humiliation
As a kid I watched our neighbor insert pure pepper in her daughter vagina whenever she was caught her standing with a boy.
She did it in the presence of neighbors.
I can now imagine the shame the girl felt going through such horrible experience from her mum.
If you find yourself humiliating your child in public always, it is not discipline. You are becoming abusive.

7. Emotional blackmail
When you force your child to always do your bidding even when it is wrong, you are emotionally abusing that child. Sometimes a child can say ‘NO’ for valid reasons.

Watch out if you tick all the boxes. You might be becoming an abusive parent. And if you are, do not beat yourself up, just work on becoming a better parent to your child.

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