How I Wooed My Wife – Olu Jacobs Reveals in Latest Interview
Olu Jacobs, needs no introduction in the entertainment industry. Happily married to Nollywood screen diva, Joke Silva, for over three decades, the pair are a reference to what a perfect marriage between celebrities should be.
The Sun caught up with the couple at the opening of Bolanle Austin Peters’ Fela and the Kalakuta Queens at Terra Culture, V. I, Lagos, and the thespian opened up on career, family and how he wooed his wife.
(Laughter) That is very wrong. I was invited to come and do a play in Nigeria by the National Theatre. I was living in England at that time.
I was to play lead in Wole Soyinka’s The Trials of Brother Jero. We were having the production when the door opened and this lady walked in and said sorry, we are ready.
When she walked in I said excuse me ladies and gentlemen, this is the lady I am going to marry. You know bodies can attract and bodies can repel. I saw her and I was attracted.
I am not an impulsive person. I did not just say come. I had to struggle to get her. She was stunned even though she gave me up and down. (laughter).
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Your union is a testament to how celebrities should handle their marriage. We have seen a lot of stories about breakups and it is saddening. Is it that actors and actresses can’t make good homes?
No, quite frankly, let me tell you what. I don’t encourage people to think that way. It is virtually in all professions, in all offices wherever you have women and men together.
Even if you don’t hear it, we have a lot of divorces in all other sectors. For the fact that you don’t hear it in other sectors like banking or in the oil sector, as oily as it is, does not mean it is not happening. It is in all offices where we have men and women.
What is the secret to your successful marriage?
It is the grace of God. And you must learn to be patient and above all, learn to be friends. She is your friend, your lover; she is not your slave. You don’t do that to a woman. You don’t intimidate her. If she is your friend, you will be tender. When a friend is involved you are tender.
Sir, we also understand that you are a great cook. Can you tell us about that?
(Laughter) I try, when I cook they eat.
Was that one of the skills that made your wife fall for you…
(Laughter) In the house, when we were growing up, you know usually, the girls did all the work and the boys did not. So, my parents decided that what they would do was give us a competition.
Let the boys cook for the boys and the girls cook for the girls. So, you have to eat what you cook and that was what did it. We all had to learn.
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Looking around me and seeing that many people are there to come and enjoy themselves in an area that people thought would never be possible, because in the past, actors and actresses were looked down on.
Now they are doing well and people are applauding. That is my joy. Like I say, I would rather one person praise my work than have 99 do the opposite.
Even if I have my work praised by 99 people but one comes and says sorry, I don’t understand it, it ruins everything. This is only the beginning. The schools are going back to play their traditional roles and acting and drama are all part of the curriculum; that was how we grew up.
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Are any of your kids taking after you?
Well, it may not be in front of the camera, maybe behind the camera.
Repetition of an act makes its performance almost automatic. The more you do something the better it gets. Patience, you must have patience and believe in yourself.
If you really need to ask questions, please go and ask. Don’t shy away, they won’t think you are stupid; they will help you.
Lovely couple.
Lovely duo