Dear MIMsters: What I Plan To Do Next Since My Husband Has Rejected All My Advances
Since my husband has rejected all my advances, this is what I plan to do next.
I am the type of woman who never double dates. I never see more than one guy at the same time and I’m not one to easily fall in love. I am currently married and I have a son who is two years old.
Unfortunately, my husband lost his job but has been doing his own errands for some time now but I am gainfully employed. My problem is my husband for some time now rarely demands for sex even when I make moves for it. The last time I made attempts, he refused. Feeling disappointed, I pledged within my soul that I’ll never press him for sex anymore.
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It’s been a year we made love and I am dying inside as I feel so empty.
Currently, there is this new guy in my life who is all a woman needs. I just want to use him to keep me sexually alive but I don’t love him. I am afraid after giving in to him, I would not pay attention to my husband any longer and things might start falling apart.
What do I do about this since my husband has rejected all my advances?
Go for it girl body no be firewood. I am sure he is getting it else where.
Your husband may be going through some sort of mild depression which could be as a result of him not having a job. And Is making him feel less a man, that he can’t meet every need in the family as he supposed to. If this’s not his usually character, I advice you give him time. Cheating will not add anything but more pain to you and your entire family just because of your desire. Give him time and wave off that guy from your mind.
@mom Gemini, you mean she should go ahead and cheat because her body is not fire wood. “Dis advice weak me o.” Madam with issue, know this. You getting satisfied outside will never ever solve the issue, it Will worsen it. Keep communicating with your husband amicably that you still love him dearly even without having a job now. God will help you
You and your husband needs to see a shrink, having a sexual partner while married is not the best.
Please dont cheat despite the temptation.
As dificult as it may seem, seek a way to have a talk with your husband. He may be depressed, may have a low libido or some other reason. It may be a brutally frank and possibly painful conversation but do all your best to keep call, avoid arguing and get that honest communication going.
All the best.
Please dont cheat despite the temptation.
As dificult as it may seem, seek a way to have a talk with your husband. He may be depressed, may have a low libido or some other reason. It may be a brutally frank and possibly painful conversation but do all your best to keep calm, avoid arguing and get that honest communication going.
All the best.
It may seem as the best way out now(sex outside marriage) but you will regret it forever cos your husband is going nowhere. Things will sort itself and each time you look at him(your husband) you will feel guilty.
My advice;
1. Just talk to God about it the way it is.
2. Pray for him more.
3. set up a time frame and act as though you’re dating, be creative, talk more, keep sex behind(for a while), send SMS when you’re not with him, have a different hairdo, change your cologne, buy new(sexy) lingeries; lacy pants, dress up before him(and just behave as if you’re doing nothing)
He will come round. When a man looses his job, he looses his identity and self worth. He feels drained and empty. These our men are babies without diapers. Please woo him back. Anything safe to keep your home.
I will advice you to sit with him and talk. Let him know that the fact he’s out of Job, your respect and love for him hasn’t change and make sure not only your word speaks let him see it in your action and above all go back to the Creator of marriage and talk to him. Let God know how you feel, don’t say He knows why should i tell him. Tell God and he will help you.
Please ,don’t look out,and judging from your story,You PLEDGED in your mind.u av decided within u not to approach him again.This man is your husband,wud u leave him to wither away? Hez probably has lost his strength as a man when he lost his job,his dying inside,and the next thing you do is recoil because he recoiled? U should make advances like Hakunamatata said,Fight for your man. Cheating won’t help anifin,and if your man catches whiff of it,ur marriage is gone.He would even recoil further. So destroy that your PLEDGE,dt stubborness,dt PRIDE that has restricted you from making advances at your man.