Dear MIMsters: How Do I Hurt This Man and Earn His Respect at the Same Time?

How do I get to hurt my husband and earn his respect at the same time?

I am an orphan. I just buried my mom on the 31st of August, 2017, so I’m still mourning. Meanwhile, I’m husband has broken my heart so deeply.

I saw a conversation between my husband and a girl who lives near our street. This girl was telling him to come and have sex with her while he first asked he if he should come. They both exchanged their nude photos and a lot more than that. I am just too weak to type.

I screenshot the chat and forwarded it to hubby and his reply was, “Do you have something else to forward to me? I thought you had more evidence.” He ridiculed me.

I was hurt and heart broken and so want to pay him back. Not by cheating on him but I want to do something that will make him stop looking down on me and start respecting me. I am a house wife and he has refused opening a business for me. I want him to also feel the pain that I feel. I am thinking of blocking him in on all social media platforms and changing my surname.

I have not even asked him about his conversation with the girl on having sex with each other and he has not said anything about it to me either.

If you are going to ask me to pray about this, just know that I have prayed and fasted without any change.

Please I need practical advice.

5 Discussions on
“Dear MIMsters: How Do I Hurt This Man and Earn His Respect at the Same Time?”
  • Why not start with dusting your certificates and getting into the streets to look for a job, equip yourself and stop depending on a serial cheater because they only take the grace of God to change. Stop letting him sleep with you cos HIV / Hepatitis A,B,C is real. This is so heartbreaking how these men take women for granted and still get away with it. SMH

  • Blocking him won’t shake him. If the pictures you sent didn’t shake him, then blocking him will only further make him do more. Please get a job or look for money and start a business that way you keep busy and won’t worry about his attitude. Want to really get back at him? Refuse him sex.

    • Why do I think that refusing him sex will push him far too deep into the hands of other women. Continuing to have sex with him? Leaves u at the mercies of damning diseases. Make yourself a better you woman. And in your housewife duties if that has to continue, pls get back to whom you were before He married you. There surely has to be a point both of you lost track of what it was before marriage. Get back to your sharp, beautiful, lively, sexy, self. Get busy other than housewifing. It’s only a man who doesn’t value what he has who cheats. If you wud cheat on her, why bring her to be your wife. I’m tired.

  • First u need to be more dan a house wife!/. Sart a business ir get a job. Let him know you are not waiting for him to bring to d table before u can feed. And please as hard as it may sound leave his phone alone. Mind your business. Pray for him and urself but knw dat prayer without work is as good as not praying.

  • First u need to be more dan a house wife. Sart a business or get a job. Let him know you are not waiting for him to bring to d table before u can feed. And please as hard as it may sound leave his phone alone. Mind your business. Pray for him and urself but knw dat prayer without work is as good as not praying.

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