Toke Makinwa on Why “….this thing called love cannot be forced”

According to a writer, Paul Chuks, “Love cannot be forced, love cannot be coaxed and teased. It comes out of heaven unasked and unsought.”

It looks like the meaning of this quote is finally dawning on Toke Makinwa, the author of On Becoming who shared a meme with some relationship advice for single women.

”You’ll meet your own king and you won’t need to beg or force him to treat you right,” she says to young women.

She wrote:

This!!!! I saw this and screamed amen so loud???????????????? same thing I was telling someone yesterday. It has nothing to do with you, stop blaming yourself for not receiving the kind of love you gave out, sometimes these things don’t work because they just aren’t meant to be and that’s ok.

People don’t change for who they want, people change when the time is right and quite frankly growth happens when you let it.

That “bastard” is someone’s future husband and guess what? She’s not going to see that side of him. Not excusing bad behavior but as I grow and learn, I realize this thing called love cannot be forced.

Love yourself enough to swallow that jagged little pill called truth and walk away with your head high. You’ll meet your own king and you won’t need to beg or force him to treat you right. Ladies this one is for you. #Relationshiptalk #OnBecomingFearless????#Loveisagameofwin #evenifyouloseyoustillwin #Takethelesson.”

It will be recalled that on the 5th of October 2017, the Igbosere High court in Lagos finally dissolved Omotoke Makinwa and Maje Ayida’s marriage (read here).

Their three-year-old troubled marriage was dissolved on the grounds that her ex husband committed adultery and continuously flaunted his adulterous lifestyle in her face.

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Toke told the court that he committed adultery with his mistress, Anita Solomon, adding that the relationship produced a child and since their marriage was contracted, the husband had “behaved in a way she could not reasonably be expected to continue to bear”.

She also said the husband was cruel towards her, adding that their differences became irreconcilable as cohabitation with her husband ceased on Nov. 8, 2015, without any child from the marriage.

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