Associate Professor, Morenike Folayan on “I Chose My Career Over My Marriage, Raised Independent Children And Now, My Kids Don’t Need Me”
An Associate Professor of College of Health Sciences, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Morenike Toyin Folayan, who could not sacrifice her career for her home told the media why she called for a divorce.
Morenike, a Nigerian reproductive health activist told TheNation, about the disadvantages of raising independent children.
She said: “One of the things that probably made me call for a divorce was that I could not sacrifice my career for my home, and I am happy I did not.
Because now that I’m divorced, I’m still going on. I don’t feel any loss and I don’t feel that I’ve wasted my life. In addition, I must acknowledge extensively that my husband stood at the home front for me, spent a lot of time with the kids. He did, and I would always acknowledge that.
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However, I think I had trained my children to become very independent. That is one of the things that make me sad sometimes. My kids do not really need me around. .
At times, I just wonder if my kids really need me. Actually, the three of them are now in the UK, one of them is married and two are in school. I send them text messages through Whatsapp or Messenger, and two weeks after, they reply.
I really brought up independent children. It has its disadvantages, but it allowed me a lot more in my career. It has its pluses and minuses.”
Strong independent woman. I love her.
Good one.