Why “Children are a burden” – Nigerian Woman Explains In a Series of Tweets

The Nigerian-London based speaker and writer sparked a heated conversation on social media after she tweeted that children are a burden.

She clarified her position by saying she doesn’t mean a ‘burden’ in a negative sense but that raising children requires a mother to sacrifice her own needs.

The woman simply identified as Okoye shared series of Tweet to explain her point and also shared messages she received from mothers who agreed with her that children are a burden.

See them below…

”Children are a burden (I don’t mean this in a bad way, it is what it is). They often slow down careers, are very costly and are very time consuming. It’s sad that some are carelessly brought into the world by people unwilling to make those sacrifices.

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Without a kid you typically have to mainly worry about yourself. With a child, you have to factor them into every decision you make. You have another load to carry, you can’t be as impulsive and frivolous, you shift your way of living to accommodate them.

Without a kid you typically have to mainly worry about yourself. With a child, you have to factor them into every decision you make.

You have another load to carry, you can’t be as impulsive and frivolous, you shift your way of living to accommodate them.

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I mean it in the sense that they are a heavy responsibility, it’s not all giggles and candy. You need to sacrifice a lot of energy and effort to successfully raise a child. I’d rather paint child-rearing realistically than decorate it.

Again, I’m not trying to say that having a child is a bad thing. But the reality of the matter is that raising a child is a heavy load.

Yes you love them and you (hopefully) don’t regret it, you can (and should) even enjoy it. That shouldn’t dampen the efforts and sacrifices made.”

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A very determined mom, Solape wrote;

”This is extremely accurate! I have been married for 8years and I have a 6year old. I wanted a child so much! When I got my baby, I almost slashed my wrist.

Being a mom is HARD! SO HARD. My hubby wants another baby. I can’t handle it neither can i stand it. My family is pressuring me for another one.

I told them NO and I just renewed my 5year birth control. I will kill someone if i get another baby. It ain’t happening.”

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MIMers, please share your opinions on the hot debate!

 

1 Discussion on “Why “Children are a burden” – Nigerian Woman Explains In a Series of Tweets”
  • I don’t have any kids, but I agree with her. Saying they are a burden doesn’t mean you hate your kids, but it is what it is. I have been around kids and cared for them, and I understand what she is saying.

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