Dear MIMsters: I Don’t Think She Loves Me Anymore Since I Lost My Job

I have been involved with a lady for the past two years. We were going to get married in December this year but I lost my job in February.

Even though I lost my job, I still wanted us to proceed with our initial plans to get married. I suggested that we start our marriage counselling which usually last for six months. But her reply was, “after counseling, then what?”

I told her that we would get married. She asked me, “where are we going to stay after marriage?”

I told her we would live in my four bedroom house that I have completed but without tiles and furniture. She said I would have to furnish the house first. I told her that we can live in my parent’s house for a year while I furnish my house. She asked again that when we go to meet elders at her church, they will want to know where I work and where I live.

To cut a long story short, I saw that she’s lost interest in the relationship since I lost my job, so I stopped visiting her. She too never visited me again. I decided not to call for three day and she did not call me either. I started calling again. After a while, I decided to try not to call her again. It’s been 27 days since the last time I called her.

I have come to the conclusion that she doesn’t love me anymore. Since, I have performed the customary rites before, traditionally, she is my wife. Now, I want to go and see her family so I can release her. What do you think?