What you are feeling happened to many married couple. Don’t be in a rush because of your innocent children. Don’t relocate yet if not you lose your home as you said it happened to your mother. Find out if your husband is gay or not. Ensure he is done with watching porn. Take the matter to the elders of his family for frank talk with both of you and seek professional marriage counselors for help . After all these you can now evaluate your options and your husband actions before any move. Don’t forget praying for God’s intervention in your marriage. Reply