Dear MIMsters: My Husband Calls Another Woman “My son’s mother”

I want to know if I am over thinking this and what this woman who my husband refers to as, “my son’s mother” want from him.

I am 34 years old with 2 kids and with one on the way. There is this woman who is in her forties thereabout that is close to my hubby. They are church friends but she sends him WhatsApp messages everyday.

Last year, I heard the are both seen regularly together but I didn’t really pay any attention to it. I don’t usually check my hubby’s phone but whenever my spirit pushes me to, I check. I saw their conversations was mostly about her husband in she complains about him.

She also ask my husband questions like, “are you home yet,” “have you eaten” etc. I called my hubby to order, telling him that I don’t like this kind of friendship and also pointed out that fact that people have started talking about seeing them together frequently and that I don’t want any scandal.

When it was my hubby’s birthday two years ago, I was low on funds, so I couldn’t bake him a cake as I usually do every year. The next day, my hubby brought a cake home, telling me that since he didn’t have a cake for his birthday, she decided to personally bake one for him.

She also started becoming too friendly with my younger son, buying him gifts and all. Meanwhile, I didn’t pay much attention to this as I felt unconcerned.

Some days ago, it was my hubby’s birthday again, so I baked him a cake and bought him a gift. This morning, I saw him wearing a new shirt. I asked him if he bought a new shirt and he said, yes. As I wasn’t convinced with his answer, later, I asked him if it was a birthday gift and he was reluctant to answer. After persuading him to, he admitted, telling me that it was from, “my son’s mother”. That is how he usually calls her. My question is, is it right to buy a gift like that for someone else’s husband? Isn’t it in order for her to tell me first, at least let me know about it. How did she even guess his exact size?