Dear MIMsters: Why Should I Hold My Niece Accountable for My Husband’s Infidelity

Why should I hold my niece accountable to me? Why?! Was she the one who exchanged vows of fidelity with me?

Ranti thinks I am mad! She says she is not certain that the screws in my head are tightly fixed and I laughed at her. She thinks I should hold my teenage niece responsible and accountable for sleeping with my husband!

Yeah, you heard me right.

And I said to her, “Ranti! My husband slept with my niece! My husband had sex with my niece! My niece is 15 years old! My niece is a minor! My husband is 45 years old! My husband is an adult! My husband swore fidelity to me on our wedding day! My husband is accountable to me! My husband is responsible for his actions! My niece did not rape my husband!

Yes! He claims it was consensual and I do not disprove that judging by Shade’s response when I confronted her with the truth. But one thing I am holding on to, and that which will never make me take Ade back as my husband is that he broke the edge; he broke the vows we made to each other on our wedding day. He broke the edge and the serpent of divorce must bite him.

I am not going back on my decision. Shade is 15 years old! Shade’s issue is Shade’s mother’s palaver. If she likes, she should call her daughter to order, and if she likes, she should let her continue to be deceived by Ade. As for me, I am out of this marriage, and I am taking my children with me.”

Shade is my late brother’s daughter. Her mother and my late brother had four of them but she is the only female amongst them. She is their third child and the black sheep of their family. She never gave joy to my brother till he passed on five years ago.

She was brought to live with me because her mother assumed I would do a good job of raising her with Christian virtues. I tried! God knows I did my best to raise Shade well but I guess my best wasn’t good enough for her.

I started suspecting the two of them when I noticed that one minute Ade would speak well of Shade and the next minute, he would complain so bitterly about her. I could not bring myself to understand why he was like that so I let it slide every time he decides to take any stand he chose.

I walked in on them having sex on our matrimonial bed. It is not a sight I ever want to recollect… Not ever! I am filing for divorce and I am going to strip Ade of everything he ever possessed in his life.

I am married to Ade and not to Shade so Ade is the one I shall hold accountable. Ade is the sinner! And on that I stand!