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Dear MIMsters: Why All I Feel For My Husband Now Is Hatred

Dear MIMsters: Why All I Feel For My Husband Now Is Hatred

My heart is so heavy as I write this as all I feel for my husband now is hatred.

I met my husband six years after he separated from his first wife who left him.

We were so in love or so I thought. A few months after our traditional marriage, I found out that he was cheating on me. It was always a case of one lady or the other. I kept forgiving him till I got to a point that I wanted to leave. I couldn’t leave because I was pregnant with our son.

It continued to the extent that he would say that the best I could do was to leave but he would go for a third. Later, he would apologise and would forgive because I loved him.

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Recently, I found out that he has been exchanging pics with a girl he has been seeing. I confronted him, he  apologised even though he lied and I let it pass. The last straw that broke the camel’s back was when I picked up his phone to transfer one of our son’s photos. I was shocked to see a woman’s pussy. I checked and saw it was this same girl. They have been exchanging pornographic pics. I decided not to confront him but make him know that i was aware by using the pic as his wallpaper.

The next morning, he scolded me and gave me a serious warning, telling me that he owes me no explanation and will not remove the photos. I have stopped talking to him but still serves him food and do his laundry but he has never even bothered to appologise or even talk about it. All he does is come home late and drunk, eats his food and go to bed.

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Right now, all I feel for him is hatred. His presence alone stirs rage inside of me. I don’t know what to do and as I’m very pregnant. I can hardly even concentrate at work.

View Comments (20)
  • Look 4 a way 2 be happy cos of ur condition n also put everytin in prayer, hv u ever tot why his wife left him it might Bcos of desame reason

  • Marriage is not a do or die affair. His first wife left him cause of similar issue n my dear don’t thin u can change him n even if he marry the slut he will still cheat. So for ur peace of mind it’s either u move out n find ur inner peace or u can stay n put up wt his behaviour but don’t kill urself ova a man dat will remarry sharp sharp if u die of HBP n don’t use baby as an excuse cus ur life matters. Sorry n be wise

  • Now u know y d first wife left. If u can’t cope then move on.hes obviously bad news.
    Or get a mediator that he respects to help

  • Now you know why his first wife left. Please leave him, he is not a serious person Mtscheeeeeeewwww. Before he gives you stds.

  • I’m always skeptical about marrying a divorcee because whatever made the first marriage to end did not end with the marriage.Since you are working and can take care of yourself and your baby,please leave while you can.That man won’t change

  • hmmm u a single mum already.get ur sanity back.take a bow. bfr u get infected

  • Marriage is not as easy as it seems with words. For a man to have separated from the wife, I think you should have find out why and where the woman is to hear from her what happened. This is one mistake most women who marry divorcee make and at the end the same trouble that chased ‘A’ out will then crop up. Madam if you want to be happy please stay away from his phone and ignore his cheating habit. Cos if you move out, there is no guarantee that the next man will not cheat. That one might not cheat but might have another devilish habit that you had to put up with. The grass isn’t green outside than you see it.

  • Multiple Sex patners, phonographic pics, indifference, unrepentant heart. God have mercy. Lady beware of H. I. V. run for dear life. Happy delivery.

  • At this stage in pregnancy you don’t need anything that can stir up HBP and cause you serious pain or even kill you. I will advice you leave the house for now and go stay with your parents or anywhere that’s comfortable for now. Life is meant to be enjoyed, so don’t let anyone have fun at your expense while you sit at the corner and grumble.

  • I am a married man. hope that is not illegal. stormed across this page and I have read almost ten articles this morning alone. as for this case in question. I feel for the lady but I don’t think she can change that man. she can go for the option of separation for are safely and that of her unborn child. she should have a HIV test done to confirm she is negative. and if she must accept him back he has to do a retroviral screen. pls sit him down and explain your decision to him. do this devoid of emotion and or anger. be calm and focused. then live up to your words. remember if u start this process and back off half way, ur husband will become worse and will never take u seriously.

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