Dear MIMsters: Should I Tell My Mum What Uncle Tobi Did To Me?

My dad died a few years ago and since then it’s been just me and mum. Now, my mum has this brother who she asked to help me with some money to return back to school. I am in my third year at the University. Since my dad died, life has been a struggle. Uncle Tobi has always been there for my mum, so it wasn’t out of place that my mum to sent me to him.

I went to Uncle Tobi’s office early that very day at about 2 p.m but he told me to wait. I sat down and waited, brought out a book from my bag to read. I must have waited for a very long time because by the time Uncle Tobi was ready for me, we were the only ones left in his office. His staff had all gone home one by one. When I checked the time it was 7pm. Then, Uncle Tobi came and sat right next to me. He held my hand and started caressing it, from there he put his arms around me. I felt very uncomfortable so I got up immediately.

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He got up too and tried to grab me like he was going to hug me, telling me that I was not a little girl anymore. Then I knew something was wrong, so I backed away from him. He started coming towards me and I kept backing away until he was chasing me round and round in his office.

I told him that I just came to get the money he promised my mum to give me for school as I had to travel back the next day. But that wasn’t important to him. He had other things on his mind. He kept trying to grab me and I kept resisting. When I saw that he was bent on having his way, I ran out of his office after managing to grab my bag.

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I left his office that day crying, disappointed, angry but happy. Even though I had no money with me and had no idea how I would return to school, I was happy. I was happy that my dignity was not tarnished. I returned home but couldn’t summon the courage to tell my mum. I cooked up a lie as an excuse which made her very furious.

But I’m thinking, should I have told my mum? I don’t want to come between her and her brother who has been so very kind to her since my dad died. What do you think?

28 Discussions on
“Dear MIMsters: Should I Tell My Mum What Uncle Tobi Did To Me?”
  • I will advice you tell your mum. She can confront him and find out why he wanted to do something like that to you if you are really his niece. You can’t cover for him for long cos if your mum don’t ask him now, anytime he has such opportunity again he won’t

  • Sweetie, you absolutely have to tell ur mother! it doesnt matter if he has been nice to her since ur dad died, he has to cos hes her brother and she would have done the same if tables were turned! dont give him an opportunity to do the same and even worse. the heart of man is truly wicked. TELL YOUR MOTHER!

  • Yes you should tell your mum.What if he had succeeded in raping you,would you still keep quiet so that he will continue assisting u and mum financially?He will wait to be confronted by mum and if that doesn’t happen,he will take it as your consent to his move.Trust me,he will ask mum to send u to him again and this time around he will be well prepared for u.

  • I feel so so happy that that good for nothing uncle of yours didn’t have his way. Quickly tell your mum the whole truth cause when next he have the opportunity, he will rape you. May God help you and your mom financially and other wise. It’s well

  • You need to tell her so that she knows the kind of nasty brother she has else he tries it again ! And so that she doesn’t send you back there

  • Tell your mum as soon as you can, no matter what the outcome maybe, don’t ever be with the uncle alone cos he’s no longer a friend.

  • I’m glad you got the chance to run out of his office, if not, he would have raped you. I think you need to open up to your mum and let her know what her brother is up to. He wants to take advantage of you and your mum’s situation. Honestly you guys don’t need that kind of person. If he withdraw his help after telling your mum then to he’ll with him. God will make a better way for you.

  • SPEAK OUT!! My dear tanxs 4 d escape, maxbe next time u will not be so lucky 2 escape, and he will succed, so pls tell ur mum ASAP b4 it’s too late.

  • tell your mother soonest, it is very important for her to know before he changes the story around. and don’t be surprise your mother may belief his story and not yours. it happens.

  • you should have told ur mum right away.the man is so useless.ur own niece again.some peopl just dnt do free things at all

  • Because that man has been good to your mother and you (directly or otherwise) gives him no right to go pn rampage and abuse. Tell your mother the whole truth and apologise for lying. I hope that foolish man doesnot try to entice/rape/defile an innocent female. I am happy you stood your ground and he didn’t have his way.

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