Dear MIMsters: Seems Like a Rude Joke That A Husband Like Mine Will Soon Be Ordained a Church Minister

Looks like a rude joke that a husband like mine will be ordained a minister soon. This is why I say so.

My husband’s extramarital affairs is tearing me apart. I’ve tried so much not to allow it hurt me but sincerely speaking it’s not easy. I pray for him and I encourage him in the best possible way I can. I’m still looking under twenty after two kids even though I’m in my late thirties.

I support the home with my little income. I barely remember that I have to buy anything for myself cause I want to satisfy my husband and kids.

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There’s this lady in his office that he’s been in a relationship with. She’s married and yet to give birth. Recently, I stumbled on their chat where I discovered he he’s been romancing her in the office. I called his attention to it but he denied it initially, until I showed him evidence cause I sent the messages to my phone. I decided to forget them even though I knew what was going on. The only thing he told me was that it was a harmless hug he gave her,bla bla bla. They even travel on different occasions for work but he never mentioned to me that he went with the lady.

There’s this other lady in my compound who is my landlady’s younger sister. I noticed when I leave the house in the morning and try to call him later in the day, his line would be busy. This has happened on more than three occasions. I’ll ask but he would always tell me he’s talking to this person or that.

I then decided to check the time on one of those days to know if it was really who he said  he was talking to. When I checked, I saw it was my landlady’s younger sister name that came up but he added my daughter’s name to her name, which made me even more curious.

After a month, this number became a regular caller on his phone. This is the same girl who finds it difficult to greet me when she sees me. My kids play with every other person, except her. She even walks by my husband and I whenever she sees us without greeting. I told my husband about it but he said I should ignore her but their interaction over the phone continued. We have even quarreled about it. I’ve also begged that he should desist from the relationship as I see it as disrespectful to me but he won’t listen.

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Today, I discovered he stored the girl’s name with a man’s name. And she still calls him during office hours. I’m so pissed. Don’t know what I should do. The more I keep mute the more the distance between us. I don’t know what tactics I should use again. Mothers please help me! We are legally and traditionally married. We also wedded in a living church. In fact, my husband will be ordained as a minister soon.
I’ve become a sad person as I can barely share this issues with anyone except God.
So sorry for this long epistle. I could go on and on just for you to understand my point.


39 Discussions on
“Dear MIMsters: Seems Like a Rude Joke That A Husband Like Mine Will Soon Be Ordained a Church Minister”
  • Minister? And u kept quiet? Report him immediately to the pastors n then go to ur land lord n report what’s happening too n beg the landlord to beg his sister to leave ur husband alone as its tearing ur home den vow if it continue dat she will reap what she sowed, don’t keep quiet on dis issue anymore cause smtimes its good to show men the other of ours. Its cause u condone cheating that makes him misbehave.

  • Why keep mute since? Report him to his parents n de pastors cause if the try make him minister na ushers go be his side chick nopw. Useless men

  • Hmmmmmm this is serious. Ordain a womanizer as minister? You need to report him to the church and let them take it up from there.

  • Na wah ooooo. This your husband na real correct player. He play home and away the same time. That girl will never respect you cos she is sharing your bed with you. If I were you I Would report her to her sister so that they will know not that when she gets pregnant they will now want to make trouble. As for the useless woman in the office get he No and call to back off or you will report her to the hubby. Some ladies re useless.

  • What a pathetic cheat u haveas a hubby all u can do is to bring the matter before both family probably they can talk some sense to him

  • You don’t have any business with the girls he is sleeping with so confronting them will only earn you insults and disrespect from those bitches. Protect yourself from STI,plunge yourself into your work and kids,make yourself happy and ignore his sorry ass.One day monkey go go market e no go return

  • Oh! Ndi virtuous wife . I can see u r playing good woman wife for him for it to escalate to this imagine sef d man dey turn to minister, I pity all the women wey go come for counselling.My two cents :Men will continually cheat on women who condone their rubbish because they know they wl do nothing

  • I feel for most women in this state. Reading this makes me feel like crying. I don’t want to imagine how you are feeling. Being cheated on hurts more so with the people you know. Talk to your (cheating) hubby that unless he stops his cheating ways, you will report him to your church leaders and in laws. People who are ministers need to live exemplary lives. Assure him of your love and remind him that his change will be for the benefit of both of you and your family (it’s actually him to benefit more because he can even be sued for adultery and face God’s wrath). Peace.

  • On second thought, maybe you should call that useless girl. Be nice and tell her you accidentally dialled her number before adding, “Wait a minute. Your voice sounds familiar. How come your number is among the received call records so often. Any trouble?” If she says, “No trouble ma” you will tell her “Okay. I was just wondering……” That girl is just wasting her time and destroying the chances of the guys who maybe interested in her. She will reap what she is sowing. My dear, keep looking good and never be wasted by someone’s cheating habits. You are beautiful and God loves you.
    No need to apologise over your long write-up. You spoke your heart out and probably felt better. A problem shared is a problemhalf solved. Best wishes.

  • First and foremost, report him to the authorities in church so they won’t make the mistake of ordaining him a minister. I don’t have a business with a cheating man cos there are loads of STD’s out there that can ruin your life forever. So make sure you ain’t sleeping with him, life is short so don’t allow anyone stop you from being happy.

  • Minister ni, minister ko…..after ordaining him, women will flock around him for deliverance, what will happen to such women??

  • Hi writer,
    For starters, well done for being bold to pour out your heart. One thing I will advice is, before you report your hubby for his treacherous act re being ordained a minister, make sure that you are also stable and capable of managing without him. Make your plans for yourself and kids financially and otherwise. I have said this because the outcome can go either way. He may come back repentant, he may come back at you worse than he was on the past so much so that living with him becomes a nightmare. I am a female activist and detest men who treat women unfairly. What ever plan to do, ensure you have a plan B. He doesn’t deserve you anyways, smhhh

  • Please my sister always talk to God in prayers if you are in right stand with Jesus Christ but if not get born again and pray for that man,please don’t stop the purpose of God over his life.

  • Please he doesn’t deserve you. What is all these talks of ignoring ya hubby n concentrating on ya kids. Everybody deserves to be happy. U are there, hurting n depriving your self of happiness while he s flexing around. He might be doing for those bitcheswhat he has never n would never do or sacrifice for u n his kids. Women will always be unhappy creatures in marriages all in d name of being Mrs. My opinion is that you should stop him from being ordained by reporting him n then wen u r fully loaded u leave him. U deserve to be happy in your marriage, not all men cheat on their wives. He knows u will always be there to clean his mess that is why he s messing around. Add value to yourself pls, move on. If he happens to be hospitalized now or be crippled due to accident u will b the ONLY person to wipe his arse n take care of him while those who enjoyed him will move unto someone else. My opinion though, others can disagree but if women can be bold enough in their marriages, many men would have a rethink of what they stand to lose bfr they cheat. Mitchew

  • My dear pray for him and continue to talk to him about his infidelity and the consequences on the family. If you can’t bear it any longer report to church authorities but before you do that make sure you have a stable means of income if you don’t pls continue to tolerate him for the sake of the children. Ignore those ladies and make itself hapi

  • So sorry. Since you have pleaded with him and he has refused to listen, tell him you are going to report him to the senior pastor. Let’s see if d thought of d shame will make him have re think. Take him to God in prayers too. Let God scatter every secret affair he’s having wit anyone

  • My sister this cheating thing with men… God forbid…I don’t know what to say.. my own ones Money gets into his…yours truly… am very heavy, he treats like trash..

  • U should report him to his spiritual leader. thereafter, call the landlady and politely tell her the threat her younger sister is posing in ur marriage. Tell her u will like to speak with the girl in her presence. when the girl comes, try ur best to be calm, polite and plain in passing ur message to her. Let her know that u are aware of her relationship with ur husband and u as a woman as a woman is only acting by confronting her and that it is because she is a woman like u that u going about the issue this way. make her understand that the seed is sowing in ur marriage is what she will reap. Also confront ur husband about his flirtatious xter. Stop condoling else it may become an incurable disease. Its well with u. Also don’t act without God involved. Always take ur pains to God in prayers.

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