In a recent interview with The Punch newspaper, Nigerian comedian and Talk Show host, Gbadewonuola Olateju Oyelakin, professionally known as Teju Babyface, 39, opened up on his fatherhood experience revealing the challenges he faced in the 6-years it took his wife to give birth to their own.
The dad-of-2 also talked about his first reaction when his wife, Tobi Banjoko-Oyelakin confirmed to him that she was pregnant.
Amongst other revelations, he talked about an humbling experience he had of his late dad, Prince Jacob Oyelakin – a successful man on all fronts- being asked if he was related to Teju Babyface when people met him.
Below is an excerpt of his interview:
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On the journey that preceded the arrival of his twins:
It wasn’t the easiest thing as no one ever really expects to get married and not have children when they want them. During our waiting period, it occurred to me that before I got married, I had never thought that having kids could be a challenge. Then I started to think of what I might have done differently if I had actually imagined it back then. When I got into it, my foremost thought was that God would get me out of it. There were days when we just went with the flow of things and believed in God’s time and other days were low days. I felt like I was getting older and wanted the situation to be over. Really, people get married because they love themselves, not just to have children. However, these thoughts only come when one is feeling strong. When the days are low, other sentiments begin to creep in.
On if he ever felt like giving up when his wife had not given birth to children:
After just five years? Of course not! There are people who have been married for more years than us and have been waiting all the while. I actually consider us lucky to have had our kids after six years. People didn’t even realise that it had been that long when I posted it on social media. Definitely, it’s tough but people have been and are still waiting for 15 years and more. You must be hopeful with every passing day.
On his first reaction when he found out his wife was pregnant:
I cried and she cried. Honestly, it was a crying party. There’s a saying that every new level brings a new devil. When you get what you have always wanted and are just about to really enjoy it, there’s another devil in the detail. Before I could bask in my ecstasy when I found out, I started to think ahead and pray for the pregnancy to hold full-term. For almost nine months, there were thoughts and prayers in advance. It’s at that point that you start to pay attention to those stories of people who didn’t carry to full-term or those who lost their baby at infancy and so on.
On how he balances work and his children:
It depends on how you see it. A wise man once told me that there are three indices on which a man will be judged – your relationship with God, that with your family and with your work – in that order. Work always comes after family and that’s how it is. If there’s ever a clash between work and family, family should come first.
On if his wife was pressured while the waiting lasted:
My family is exposed and learned. There was no pressure from them because they are very loving.
On if he wants more children:
That’s up to God. I personally want one more but my wife does not even want to hear about that. When I bring it up, she looks at me like I am unwell. However, I’m grateful for what I have.
On what fatherhood has changed about him:
I can’t believe I am as fortunate to receive a boy and a girl at once after the wait. That’s a fairytale. And they arrived before I turned 40. I was always afraid to turn 40 without having kids. I am a progressive thinking person who thinks outside the box and shuns age-old traditions that say one must do certain things by a certain age. However, I believe strongly that life does begin at 40 and for that, nothing else mattered to me personally than having a kid before 40. Fatherhood made me very grateful.
On the highlights of his career:
I was walking one day (in school) from my hall to the arts’ theatre to prepare for a play my club was hosting. Then, my colleague came to me saying that I had been shortlisted for a movie audition which I knew nothing of. Jude Orhorha had recommended me and someone else to the director, Tade Ogidan, and as soon as he (Ogidan) saw me, I got the role. Interestingly, I couldn’t act at all but the director helped me through. When I got cast for the role in the movie, Diamond Ring, I was an 18-year-old, year two student in UNILAG. I immediately envisaged a future that was glamorous with fame and fortune.
Acting with RMD was a surreal feeling because he was someone I admired earnestly. I won’t disclose my pay for that project but it is equivalent to a student who gets N25,000 pocket money and suddenly getting N500,000 from one movie. I was paid half upfront and I went on a ‘ballistic’ shopping spree to buy clothes.
When my parents found out that I was going into the entertainment industry, they were not happy at all. It didn’t help that I was failing in school and for a long time, they didn’t see me living up to my potential and the life they had dreamt of. Over time, I grew in my career and they were recognised as my parents and that turned things around with them. You know you are doing well when your father, who is successful, introduces himself and people start asking if he’s related to you. That happened to me and it calmed him down.
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