“Domestic Violence Is Not A Result Of Provocation”- Survivor, Mercy Makinde Opens Up

Women empowerment advocate and the founder of Amazing Amazon Initiative, Mercy Makinde has taken to her Instagram page to disabuse the mind of people who think domestic violence is as a result of provocation.

Sharing her before and after the season photo, Makinde testified that she is one of the few fortunate domestic violence victims to come out alive.

She stated further that the belief of domestic violence being a result of provocation and people’s act of admonishing victims never to annoy their abusers give these abusers the strength to keep at it. In addition, Makinde queries why these same abusers exercise restraints from hitting their bosses or colleagues who provoke them at work.

Read her submission below:

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The picture on the left is me 12 years ago! Then a Victim now a Victor!
I am one of the few fortunate to be alive. Some left in a body bag and while many still suffer Domestic violence because it remains widespread and is often considered “socially acceptable” in Nigeria.
This is the reason family, friends and even some religious bodies do not see domestic violence as such a big deal. They believe it’s the outcome of provocation and admonish victims never to annoy their abusers . But these abusers don’t hit their bosses or colleagues who provoke them at work . They exercise restraints!
Domestic Violence IS NOT A RESULT OF PROVOCATION. I’m writing this in capital letters and I hope it sinks in! Violence and Abuse is a tool used to enforce control, power and fear in a relationship or marriage and not a momentary expression of anger.
So stop judging victims by saying they were battered because of an imagined, perceived or rumored wrong or asking them annoying questions like “what did you do that made him beat you”. Questions like these are unintelligent and insensitive.
Violence against women isn’t cultural, its criminal. Real men don’t use violence! We must all join hands to eliminate violence against women and girls. Our women must feel and know that they are not alone!
There is NO EXCUSE for Violence Against Women. And yes, no excuse for violence against men either.
Don’t justify it….don’t judge them!
I am a Victim turned Victor ready to help other victims. Join in , let’s make a difference!
#OrangeTheWorld #HearMeToo #metoo #WeSayNoToViolenceAgainstWomen #iamasurvivor #ViolenceElimination
#notoviolenceagainstwomen #leavenoonebehind #16daysofactivism2018 #vawg #vawglobal2018 #16daysofactivismagainstgenderbasedviolence #16daysofactivism

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The picture on the left is me 12 years ago! Then a Victim now a Victor! . . I am one of the few fortunate to be alive. Some left in a body bag and while many still suffer Domestic violence because it remains widespread and is often considered "socially acceptable” in Nigeria. . . This is the reason family, friends and even some religious bodies do not see domestic violence as such a big deal. They believe it’s the outcome of provocation and admonish victims never to annoy their abusers . But these abusers don’t hit their bosses or colleagues who provoke them at work . They exercise restraints! . Domestic Violence IS NOT A RESULT OF PROVOCATION. I’m writing this in capital letters and I hope it sinks in! Violence and Abuse is a tool used to enforce control, power and fear in a relationship or marriage and not a momentary expression of anger. . So stop judging victims by saying they were battered because of an imagined, perceived or rumored wrong or asking them annoying questions like “what did you do that made him beat you”. Questions like these are unintelligent and insensitive. . Violence against women isn't cultural, its criminal. Real men don't use violence! We must all join hands to eliminate violence against women and girls. Our women must feel and know that they are not alone! . There is NO EXCUSE for Violence Against Women. And yes, no excuse for violence against men either. Don't justify it….don't judge them! . I am a Victim turned Victor ready to help other victims. Join in , let's make a difference! . . #OrangeTheWorld #HearMeToo #metoo #WeSayNoToViolenceAgainstWomen #iamasurvivor #ViolenceElimination #notoviolenceagainstwomen #leavenoonebehind #16daysofactivism2018 #vawg #vawglobal2018 #16daysofactivismagainstgenderbasedviolence #16daysofactivism

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