Monalisa Chinda Opens Up On Why She Left Her First Marriage To Dejo Richards & Lessons Learned In Tell-All Interview

Star actress, Monalisa Chinda -Coker has had her fair share of relationship troubles over the years. She got married to record label executive, Dejo Richards, in 2004, though the union only lasted for few years.

Shortly after that, the film producer and television personality got into a publicized relationship with socialite, Lanre Nzeribe, but that relationship also fizzled out. However, the 44-year-old mom eventually got married to a childhood friend, Victor Coker in 2016.

Ever since she tied the knot with Victor, she has been radiating with a glow that is hard to miss. It is very obvious that she is confident and happy with the experience she is enjoying in her present marriage.

In a recent interview with Top Naija, the fair-complexioned actress who has a lovely daughter from her first marriage opened up on why she left the father of her only child.

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During the chat, Mrs Coker who says she doesn’t believe in separation or divorce, disclosed that her ex-husband, Richards is a woman beater, who kept hitting her for five years she was in the marriage. She revealed that the excessive beating from the father of her daughter made her think otherwise.

Monalisa further disclosed that after the birth of her child, she thought the violence would stop but rather it persisted. She narrated:

“When I had Tamar, I thought that would calm situations. But it didn’t. I knew this was not going to stop. So Tamar clocked one, the violence didn’t stop… So I said if I don’t go, this man is going to kill me and this girl. So I had to turn to God… I don’t believe in separation of any sort.

I don’t believe in divorce. Why did I talk to God directly? Because I told talked [sic] to my church then, they didn’t do anything about it.

I had a pastor. He didn’t do anything about it, not even calling him to order… And nothing changed. I turned to Holy Spirit now I said I’m going to leave. And I’m ready to face any consequences be it the media…

One day, something happened… He came back and asked for something, it wasn’t available and next I heard was a bang on my head, slaps… My daughter was crying. Neighbours were screaming ‘you will kill her o! You will kill her o!

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Every day we no go hear something for this compound!’… That night… the friend came over and stopped it… The morning after, I’d packed my things and taken Tamar to go to my very good friend’s place… a colleague of mine who opened her home to me and my daughter…

I had to go back again to get Tamar’s, few of Tamar’s things because I didn’t have any money…. and then he blocked me and immediately I went into tongue-speaking in my heart saying this man should not kill me today. And after that beating that day I almost died. I decided to never to come back there again.”

On how she tried to keep it together before finally deciding to move out of her marriage, she said,

”I wasn’t in a hurry to leave the marriage, I gave it five years… Maybe if the marriage wasn’t violent, I would have stayed from day one from pushing off the head to slap to every slightest provocation….”

Even though I had peace in my heart when all of these were happening, I was waiting for the right time to leave and it took me 5 years.”

Mrs Coker also talked about the lessons learned from the crashed union.

READ ALSO: Actress Uche Ogbodo Disagrees with Monalisa Chinda’s Views on Domestic Violence: ”It can never be a woman’s fault” 

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