Actress/Mum-of-One, Monalisa Chinda Coker Opens Up About Wanting More Children And How She Truly Feels About Her First Marriage

Celebrity mum/ actress, Monalisa Chinda Coker in a new interview with The Sun answered quite a number of questions about her personal life; including questions about her marriage to ex-husband, Dejo Richards, her desire to have more children, and whether her new in-laws have been hounding her for kids.

Monalisa in the interview described her marriage to Dejo Richards which crashed on the grounds of domestic violence amidst other allegations in 2009 as marrying the wrong man at the right time.

The mum-of-one also revealed that her only child whom she shares with estranged ex, Richards, often asks her if she could get a little brother or sister, but the mum also said God already knows that her heart desires match that of her daughter’s.

READ ALSO: Monalisa Chinda Opens Up On Why She Left Her First Marriage To Dejo Richards & Lessons Learned In Tell-All Interview

Read excerpts from the interview below

Does your daughter always ask for another baby, a sibling?

Yes, she wishes. She’s alone and so sometimes she would ask, ‘is there any chance that I can get a younger brother or sister?’ and I would say ‘it’s coming’. The Lord is the author and finisher of my faith. He knows my heart desires; he knows I want more children. It’s up to him to give me. It is not a burden for my husband and I. We look beyond all of that; children are not in the hands of man but God to give. I am happy I have such an understanding partner. He knows that none of us is barren. With time, by the grace of God, we shall have more kids.

Don’t your in-laws disturb you?

No. They don’t. We have gone past that stage.

Looking back, do you have a regret or mistake you made?

Maybe five years ago, I would say yes but now, no. Everything that has happened to me in the past has been a blessing that has built me to be a better person. It’s an eye-opener, which has made me wiser. I didn’t kill anybody neither did I steal, it’s just flesh. Sometimes you think you are taking the right decision for yourself, not knowing it is a grievous mistake. Don’t stew in your juice, if you have made a mistake in life, move on, don’t try to carry out revenge or get angry over what you couldn’t control. My advice is, let your hurt go so that you can be a better person. Let love lead and find you again.

Do you see your past marriage as a mistake or regret ever taking such decision?

No, I don’t see it as a mistake. I was just young and naive. I met the wrong person at the right time. The person was wrong for me, so what I did was to dust the dirt off my body and move on.

What’s your advice for some of your colleagues suffering from heartbreak, failed marriages?

Every individual has his or her way of dealing with emotions. It is very difficult I must confess, but when you keep speaking positivity into your life, that helped me a lot. I looked at myself in the mirror and told myself that I am better than before. I had a child who was 16 months old at that time. I told myself, I must move forward. I must look after my child.

Fill yourself with positivity. Surround yourself with people that are supportive. I had a fantastic support system, my family and very few of my colleagues. They knew how I started from day one with the person in question. So, find yourself among people who would take you to light. I prayed a lot, put my situations in the hands of God and He helped me. That’s why I said it’s not a mistake; it only shaped me and made me a better person. Then, I had wanted to marry because every other person was getting married.

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