Defeated Mum? How To Stay In Control Of Your Family

By Timur Karipov

As children grow wiser, it can be hard for some parents to remain in control. Many parents are overwhelmed by the immense love they have for their children that they will let them have their way every time. Every family needs a head, however. This is the only way everything can work smoothly. Without proper leadership, it is easy for children to stray. On the other hand, as a parent, you will need to remain a good head without making the kids feel intimidated in any way.

Tip 1. Be the authority figure at all times. By establishing yourself as the figure of authority, you will find handling children easy. You have to make it clear to them that you are the household boss and rules you set have to be followed. You can start by demonstrating that elders need to be respected always. This is easy to do if your parents are actively involved in your life. Children must be taught how to respect you and all other elders. It should include addressing you or answering your questions appropriately even during situations that are tense.

Tip 2. Set clear rules. Creating a sense of expectation with your children helps them strive to make you happy. It is therefore helpful to set rules that are clear enough for them. You can do this by dividing chores around the home and rotating them between the children. Appropriate behavior expectations such as language should also be set in all settings. When you make the rules, stick to them and you should be consistent. Never treat any child any differently.

Tip 3. Create a punishment and rewards system. You become a good head of the family when you can reward good behavior and when you are strict enough to make sure rules are followed through punishment. There are different ways of rewarding children. This is considering that small things will always mean a lot to them. You can take them out for dinner, a trip to an amusement park of their choice or a holiday to a favorite destination. Punishment should be in place to discourage bad behavior. It should however be sensible punishment such as time outs and grounding.

Tip 4. Have fun with the family. In as much as you want children to respect you as the head, you want them to love you too. Spending fun time together can create that bond between you. You can even bring yourself to their level by indulging in childish games they love.

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Parenting can be a challenge. Help can however be got from online books. They are books designed to offer parenting tips and how to handle children at different stages of development. The free books can be accessed from any place and by anyone thanks to the availability of internet. You can actually download books to keep for future references or for use when the need for some insight arises. They can be a great help in bringing up responsible children.