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See This Mum’s Reaction to Doctor’s Viral Claim That Kissing Your Child on the Lips is ‘Sexual’ & ‘Confusing’

See This Mum’s Reaction to Doctor’s Viral Claim That Kissing Your Child on the Lips is ‘Sexual’ & ‘Confusing’

The controversial comments made by American psychologist, Dr Charlotte Reznick, in 2010 warning that parents should not kiss their children on the lips because it is ‘sexual’ and ‘confusing’ went viral last week, sparking fresh debates (read here).

Following the fresh debates, mum and blogger, Louise Rodgers, aka The Puzzled Mummy, shared an interesting post on her Facebook page, expressing her right to kiss her own child. Read the post below and tell us what you think:

“Over the past couple of days I have been collecting ‘kissing selfies’ of parents and their children. Here’s why.

It has been all over parenting news recently that comments have been made by Dr. Charlotte Reznick in regards to kissing your child on the lips.

According to Dr Reznick, we should stop kissing our children on the mouth, as she believes it is “too sexual.”

She gave the following statements in order to validate her point:

1) If mummy kisses daddy on the mouth and vice versa, what does that mean, when a little girl or boy kisses their parents on the mouth?

Is this a trick question? Some kind of screwed up riddle? Let me have a go at cracking it. I’m guessing that mummy and daddy kiss on the mouth because…erm…well…they love each other? They are showing affection?

And as for what this means when a parent kisses their child on the mouth, then I’m going to hazard a guess here and say I’m pretty sure it means the same thing! Where does the sexual part come in here?

Kissing is different in many cultures. Some cultures kiss on the mouth, some kiss both cheeks, and some rub noses! But the one key thing they have in common is the fact that it’s a display of affection.

2) If I had to answer when to stop kissing your kids on the lips, it would be now

Ok, well first of all I’m pretty sure no one asks the question “when should I stop kissing my child on the mouth?” – but let’s for one weird, messed-up minute, pretend that they did.

If I had to answer that question I’d probably say there will come a time when your child no longer wants to kiss you at all, never mind on the lips. Just the same as they will stop holding your hand or needing you to tuck them in to bed at night. Kids develop, they grow.

They will no longer require you to feed them, bathe them, toilet them. And at some point they will probably be embarrassed to walk down the same street as you. So don’t sweat it!

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Secondly, if I were to take your advice, Charlotte, are you really telling me that although I have been kissing my child on the lips for four years, I am now supposed to suddenly stop? What reasons would I give for this? When my child innocently comes to me for some love and affection and I coldly push him away and do not allow him to kiss me, how do I justify this?

How about this: ‘Mummy can’t kiss you on the lips, darling, as it’s an erogenous zone and I don’t want you to think I’m being sexual’. I’m pretty sure even my four-year-old would know that was b******t!”

3) Kissing on the lips can be stimulating

Wait… what? Stimulating, to me, in regards to a child means something that engages them, motivates them. A stimulating activity for my child is a walk in the park, looking at nature, different colours and shapes. If me kissing my child stimulates him I would hope that you mean it motivates him to show affection to people he loves, engages him with the feeling that he is loved unconditionally.

But I get the feeling that’s not the kind of stimulating you are referring to, in which case I highly advise you to stimulate yourself in to seeking help.

4) It’s just too confusing

I think it would probably be more confusing for a child if their parent stopped kissing them in the way they always had. What thoughts do you think that would provoke in a child? I think the only person who is confused here is me. I’m confused as to what I can and can’t do with my child for fear of every action being sexualised.

I’m confused as to what I will be told I can’t do next? Will I be advised not to bath my child for fear of touching an erogenous zone that may cause stimulation? Will I be advised not to breastfeed? Change their nappy? See them naked? Hell! Let’s just make C-sections the compulsory way of giving birth to ensure our newborn children don’t see our vaginas during labour and have to deal with the trauma of it for the rest of their lives. Perhaps Bounty could start recommending blindfolds and mitts as part of a newborn starter pack!”

View Comments (15)
  • I disagree dt kissing a child on d lips is sexual cum confusing unless unless d child hs grown to adult. Dts y I love Oyibo pole.

  • Actually d woman made a point likewise d Dr it all depend on d way we look at it to some parents is a crazy idea why to others is jst nothing bt wit d rate of incest and aborminations going on in our world today I’ll go wit d Dr’s opinion.

  • Thanks to this mom cause dat DR is even confuse without any fact to support it. I dnt see anytin wrong in kissing a child n I even stated earlier dat I do kiss my kids n will continue doing it. Am tired of dis deir everyday research

  • Whites and their way of doing things. Who say you have no right but pls there should be limit and also think of the adverse effects of our actions.

  • For me kissing a child on d lips should stop at age two.That’s how a paedophile will kiss the child n he/she will see it as normal bcs mum n dad do same to him/her.There are other ways to show a child affection than lip kissing eg hugs,pecks,etc.

  • hmmm,i kiss her,she kisses me everywia,pecks me on d fore head,cheeks,lips.. she is so fond of dat.. to me alone

  • I agree with her the only reason I don’t kiss my kids on the lips is the fear of transferring German to them

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