Dear MIM Readers: Like His 1st Wife Did, Should I Run Away From My Husband?

I’m a second wife to my husband. I’m Indian and in my culture, polygamy is allowed.

We were in a relationship for 3 years before we got married. When I became pregnant with my first child, he promised me that he would leave his first wife. After I delivered, he hid this fact from his family and wife.

When my daughter turned 1, his wife got to know about us, so she left him. I took care of him and his 3 kids for a year while his wife was kept coming and going. Whenever his wife comes around,  he would treat me very badly. Then I became pregnant with his 2nd child, so I had to tolerate everything and let it go. After a year and a half, he brought his first wife to officially to stay with us and life was hell for 3 years.

We moved to another country where his first wife ran away from home with her three kids. This man is irresponsible. He screws around and is drunkard. I’m very tired of tolerating all these. Please advice me on what should I do?

Should I leave him and move on the way his first wife did? I am confused and just want advice. Please advice without insults and  abuses. Thank you.