Dear MIM Readers: I Stopped Giving Him Money And Since Then He’s Been Acting Strange
This fan says she wants your advice. Please advice…
I am 33-years-old and been in a relationship with this guy for 8 years now. Since he was jobless, I provided him with capital to start up a business a year ago. Despite that, he has never stopped asking me for money even though I have not seen the dividend of his business.
Recently, I declined giving him more money and since then he has been acting strange. I want to get married as I’m not getting younger. I have been forced to play the role of the man who takes care of him from head to toe, footing the bills and house rent. I am tired of all these as he’s not ready to help out. I need advice.
How can you want to marry a man like that? Just because you are getting old. Who says 33 is old? It’s this mind set that leads people into terrible marriages. Am growing old, I need to settle then end up with the wrong person smh.
My sister I just tire. Some people won’t learn even with the kind of stories we hear and read daily.
u don’t need advice please the hand writing is boldly written in the wall.Leave him now cos he’s not even serious with his life and u.
B wise& resd the handwriting on the wall. That guy is just a gigolo using u as money making machine. If u make the mistake of your life& marry him, b ready for heartbreaks through out cos it wl get worse.its better to b single&happy than to b married& hurting if u doubt me, read posts on this page for a wk.a word is enough for the wise
What advice do you need again please leave him. Desperation to be married shouldn’t push you to jump into the hand of a man who is solely dependent on you. For how long can you carry the family responsibility after marriage? Please use ur common sense and leave him now or you will cry all your life if you marry that guy.
May God provide a rich,good man for u b4 this year runs out amen. It’s well n hey come back n testify cause it’s well with u
Please leave or do u want to still stay?
Babe you are in a relationship with a boy. Look for a man for yourself. You ate still young. Eight years is not beans. Look elsewhere sharply.
Don’t start what u can’t finish, if ur man is not ready to support u then, he not worth being ur husband. If u go ahead n marry him n have kids, d load will b much on u. N that can make u unhappy for as long as u pay d whole bills.
You don’t need advice.Your actions shows you are desperate and d guy knows.He will just milk u dry and marry another babe.
nawa ooo dat guy wil Neva marry u young lady he is saving ur money for his future wife quit now to avoid had I known though is not easy but u hv to move on. I wish u d very best mr right dear.
He such an irresponsible man, don’t ever ever start what you can’t finish.
Who told u u need advice? U knw what to do bt u r afraid of doing it u dnt want to face reality what u need is courage nt advice tell ur d truth my dear
Who told u u need advice? U knw what to do bt u r afraid of doing it u dnt want to face reality what u need is courage nt advice tell urself d truth my dear
Dats d mistake some ladies make, even if he eventually marries u, how do intend 2 enjoy d marriage, it is well.
If you marry him, there’s every possibility you will end up footing all d bills for a long time cos dis guy is seeing you as his money making machine. You’re not getting younger but you deserve someone better than that. Pls move on without him and I’m sure the right guy will come with d Almighty God on your side. All the best sister
Buying love with money always end up like dis. Move out of dat bandage n pray to God to lead you to your rightful husband. All the best
Dear poster,goin tru ur story is so annoying.Cos I don’t see any reason fr a lady to foot a man’s bill ad giving money fr bizness ad still requesting more money frm u ad u stil tinks he means we’ll fr u?Dis guy is collectin money frm u more just to save fr his wife to b frm somwher,nw dat u stoped givin him,if u complain to him nw dats wen he will start givn u excuses so dat u can brake up wit him since he knws he has nothin to loose again.If u lik ursef better pick up ur life ad pretend he doesn’t exist ad move forward.
U r already advising urselve by showing tiredness, so re leave ur self if d tiredness nd move on 2 avoid story dat touch!
It’s very easy to jump into conclusions!
There are so many sides to every story, secondly, what happens if it’s the other way round?
I’m not absolving the guy in question but we need to do a more objective criticism.
What r d other sides u r talking abt?its only a gigolo dat wud say dat.
Sis stop decieving urself by hoping that that gold digger will ever marry u.wise up girl
u the man in this case.n I wonder y stayed for so long. this is a relationship u should have walked away from a longtime ago..
As u said you are tired of the relationship, pls quit cos if u don’t u will regret for the rest of your life…quote me!
continue deceiving urself… the earlier u let him go the better for u….
Eight long years… with a lazy ingrate??? No way. Please take a bow… u don try.
Gosh!!!!! This is insane, all in the name of wanting to be married.
stop blocking the way for good men. living with a man makes people see you as married and no man will like to approach you even if they have interest in you. let go of this man and make yourself available. Please save yourself for endless cry of “had i know” whilst you already knew before hand. Good luck.
U can see d handwriting boldy on d wall if u marry him jst know that u will b responsible for him urself and ur kids all ur life use ur toung count ur teeth
abeg ….carry waka. move on. he shld appreciate whateva u put on d table.
I guess this is a big sign of warning God is trying to show you before getting married to him, plz don’t try to waste ur tyme any longer with such a man
ti dont think that man likes you. he is wasting your time.
Dear poster, i think you already know what to do but you don,t have the courage to tell yourself the truth and walk out of that relationship.
Leave him…….He’s not ur husband!
Poster,u are wasting your time with that man,leave him and get a life pls
kick his ass out
If he is the man you want to settle for then you haven’t found a man yet….
You made the right decision my sister ….that guy is a leech! Let him.go.jooo
Oh God. All these third party human theatrics of ridiculous experience. Hmm. Its against conventional propriety to constitute a third party nuisance here but lady, I’d give you the principles without being partisan. What’s faulty here isn’t all of the objections but the agreement. Depending on the aforesaid agreement you have this guy or pre-existing, which has marriage as the end result being in a relationship for up to 8 years, you should be able to discern at this juncture by acute appraisal whether or not you or your man has lived up to expectation. After fitting facts, arrange this facts to the reality on ground and then apply what’s left to what step to take next. Only you and I repeat only you has the final decision here cos you know what has been prevailent in the relationship up until now so make judgement based on the cohesion of your agreement and what’s needs to be induced into it whether it be bailout or sacrifice. But your ultimate decision eventually, whether you sincerely diagnoise properly or not will affect you forever so take the time to ask yourself the right questions before taking a leap. Relationship is all about mutual exclusiveness but this exclusiveness is subject to the adherence to relevant principles which informs how well in order both parties have fared or not. God give you the wisdom to make the right decision here. I see that both parties have failed in a bid to compensate the right efforsts in the relationship so now is the time to make judgement based on these things. I can’t make them for you. God bless.