He Thought I Was Cheating & Did This to Me. I’m Scared, Should I Call Off Our Wedding?
My fiance and I are Ghanaians based in England and have been dating for 2 years. We are getting married in June this year and all plans are set. I however got the greatest shock of my life on Feb 14th.
He had came to my flat a day before and a male friend of mine called me at night while I was sleeping and he saw the call. I woke up in morning only to be met with accusations and name-calling. He even threatened to call my people to cancel the
wedding and left my flat in anger.
I called my mum to report his behaviour. My parents subsequently advised me to go and apologize to him in order to
bring peace. I found out when I got to his place that my mum had even called him to apologize on my behalf.
As soon as I got there, he started the name-calling again, calling me names like ashawo, cheap, whore and the likes, and before I knew it, this very calm man I have known for the past two years turned into a different person. He was behaving like a completely mad person.
He locked the door and started beating me and pulling my hair. He took out a knife and threatened to kill me if I didn’t confess that I’m sleeping with the guy who called me on Saturday night. Some of my braids came off, my dress
was completely torn and I had bruises all over. He ceased my phone so I couldn’t call in the police and held me hostage for close to an hour.
I cried the whole time, pleading with him to free me. Just around that time, my mum started calling me and he picked the call and told her we just had a small fight and I was crying. My mum asked to speak to me and I told her everything that happened.
Surprisingly, my mum told me these things happen in marriages and I shouldn’t let other people know our problems. My mum said lots of women go through this once in a while and I should stop crying and not do anything that will bring about the cancellation of our wedding.
He also started crying too, pleading that he was very sorry and didn’t know what came over him. I then left and came to my place. He’s been calling and texting me since then but I’ve refused to respond. I am in total shock! I am also disappointed at my mum’s reaction to all of this. Honestly, I’m scared for my life because if I go
ahead to marry him, it might continue and I have read about men killing their spouses in marriages.
He is not a violet person usually though and very remorseful about how he treated me. What should I do? Should I cancel the wedding or give him another chance. I need your advice.
Another chance you say? Issok. He has just shown you his real character now please don’t pay a blind eye to it. If you go ahead and marry this guy, he will beat you at the slightest suspicion and your mum will say the same thing she’s saying now until one day he will kill you *God forbid it* if I were you, I will cancel and move on.
Thank your God you’ve seen the sample on time, run for your life.
Madam! Madam!! Madam oooo!!! How many times I call you so? Pls I beg you LEAVE THAT GUY NOW!!! Your life will not come to an end if you do, rather you’d have spare us one more gory story in future, neither your mom for that guy is responsible for your life/wellbeing, you are your responsibility. Pls be wise.
QUIT the relationship. That’s how most of them are. He feels your parents are on his side so he can do whatever he wants. Thank God that he has revealed the BEAST in him to you. Wedding is not marriage. It is just a ceremony but the real life starts when you two are living together. RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE. People may try to talk you into marrying him but NEVER forget gow he handled you because he may do worse when you are married.
IT IS BETTER TO QUIT NOW THAN BE MARRIED AND DIVORCE LATER WHEN YOU HAVE KIDS. BE WISE.
If he can pull a knife and threaten you with it. Trust me, he can stab you with it and beg you later. I’ve been in an abusive relationship before. That’s how they are. They appear nice and calm. They also know exactly what to say to you in order for you to forgive them after abusing you seriously. I’m glad that i had the courage to leave while i still could and today i’m married to a man who has my interest at heart. Never for once touched me no matter how angry he gets. Don’t listen to your mum and die young. Our parents don’t know it all.
Use ur tongue ad count ur teeth
You are very funny!
U are going to marry a jealous lover this pple are always mean
absolutely right. jealous lovers are usually very mean any time any day. Listen to your heart.
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hmmm this is serious issues. please l will say you should give yourself sometime to get over it. and when your mind is cool then you can decide what you want. cos for now you are not in the right frame of mind to make that decision due to the trauma. wishing you all the best.
You’re a mumu
Time kwa? What sort of advice is that
Men in almost all cases of domestic violence are usually quiet.They always claim ‘something’ came over them.I’m happy you realise the danger involved if you decide to continue.I’m sorry to say this but your mum is selfish as she has pushed your welfare to the background and only interested in the success of the wedding which happens to be just a day.I have so much to say but just know a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage or your life.This man could even be violent if you decide to end the relationship so be very careful
My dear not all that glitters are gold, u may not understand it now buy later, if i may aim my view u can still find another man that can love till date do u part so wait for Gods time because he is not your man ok!
if i were you i would run for my life…cos if u marry him he would kill you.
People are saying run; run, run to where. There is no perfect husband, there is also no perfect wife. But both have a Perfect Savior in Jesus Christ.
Hello Juliet. Ur comment for d abused lady is quite alarming coming frm a woman. Is he d only man in d world? I don’t think U understand d situation here…. nor have U heard abt similar and worse stories, some of which d victims did not live to tell their side in details. U cannot deliberately and consciously walk into d lion’s den and ask God to save U when U have d option of escape & safety for better….. It’s not like they are already married. Jesus Christ did not tell us to b foolish, pls study Ur bible very well. Have a blessed day.
Well said benita.
Thank you for telling her that. I was almost insulting her when I read her rubbish. Using God to talk. Foolish person. Thank u jere for putting her in her place.
Juliet shut up! You don’t know what to say
So she has no access to Jesus if she doesn’t marry him? The bible says the name of the Lord is a strong tower the righteous RUN in and they are saved. Is he her only option in life? She should not just run, she should flee.
Na you sabi, is she married yet??
But most husbands nowadays are abusive though. At least from the few stories I have heard.
Pls run run run now that u can
Madam, I pity u if u still go ahead to marry dat man. He will surely turn u into a punching bag.
Hmmm. This is a serious matter. I don’t think you should continue your marriage plans with him yet bcos if he could do all dat to you in courtship then I wonder what he’ll do in marriage? Where is d place of trust in a relationship? Or have you been giving him reasons to doubt you lately? He over reacted and I really don’t think dat kind of man is meant for any woman. He needs to deal with dat spirit of anger dat can make him hurt or kill someone. Pls pend d wedding for now for your own good. Even if you go back to him, be 100% sure he won’t raise his hands on you ever again no matter how angry he gets. Your family members are not in your shoes so they need to understand it’s your life and future here.
I tink u have to watch him more closely, dat might be his real self.May God guide ur decisions.
My dear. Pls run now while u can bcos u r not yet married. Dt mkes it less complicated. I think d guy jus showed u his true violent self. Pls run now befr he feels he cn do worse to you n get away wit it. Thnk u
Can you imagine?
A stitch in time saves nine. That man is a wolf in sheep clothing. Its hard to just up n call of the wedding but wedding is not marriage. I will suggest u get on ur knees and thank God for this priceless revelation after that, ask the good Lord to gv u wisdom and strenght to leave that wolf. It is very hard to leave some1 u have been in love with but my dear to console ursef, u hv been in love with facade. Do something now a future u will be happy u did, quit that relationship, call off the wedding, u ar d one involved nt ur mum n ur family, u will live with dis man till death do u part, if u marry him, then prepare ur mind for countless family meetings where your people will always b apologisng n mayb God forbid, d last meeting will b about some1’s burial(you or him). Thank God for timely intervention, if u choose to stay kno dat ur children, family n neighbours will lose their respect for u bcos of the way he will treat u like an inanimate object, his property n nt a human being. Time heals all tin. If u leave him now i strongly believe ur doin ur self more good than harm. Someone is out there who is meant for u cos i strongly believe dis present guy is not the one. Be wise n tink abt your future. God bless u
Run
Poster Darling your life is important to us pls. IF he can pull a knife just because of a mere suspicion then he can do worse things to you after the said marriage and am so surprised at your mom’s reaction and the way she handled it, it means she’s only interested in the wedding and not your life after the wedding. I will advice you not to go ahead with the marriage.
pls listen to Faustine and Eka Ekwere. A word is enough for the wise. Unless you believe you won’t someone who will truly treasure you. Don’t kid yourself saying he might not do it again because he will, only now it will get worse, there’s no way to avoid talking or having anything to do with any other male on earth. CHOOSE WISDOM.
My dear poster, God made this happen in order to reveal the type of person your fiance is. If a man can do what he did when you’re only engaged (and in a country where wife beating is like a taboo), then you can imagine what he will do when you’re finally married. My dear, I would advise you NOT to go ahead with the marriage. God will bring your own man. However, I’m disappointed in your mother whose only concern and interest is the wedding ceremony. She didn’t think of your welfare after the one day ceremony! Mother? Hmmm! Please run from this man for your dear life – which is just one! Broken engagement is better than broken marriage!
My dear, a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Always remember that most of our African mothers only care that their girls got married and not afterward. Please is your life not hers think well and act well. your cut dear.the Lord be with you.
Run for your life
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God have use that purpose to show you the kind of person the man his and you are still thinking of second chance I bet u dnt want to play with your life
I am so sorry for the likes of juliet aloaye. If u are in an abusive relationship is that why u shud want someone else to be in one? . I am not someone that likes leaving comment on stories but this one is very important cos God is showing the writter the real person that man is. Pls leave ur mother and run far from dat monster cos he will kill u someday and blame it on God knows what. Run for ur life period
Run for your life. This is just a sample of the worst that is to come. You are so lucky you got to see him in his element. You are so so lucky. Do not let sentiments push you to your grave. Run!
What else do you want?
This is exactly why people date.
So you can get to know the real him or her.
Please run for your life!
This is but the preamble.
The main deal is in when he gets all rights over you in marriage.
Whoch guy called you at night and where you actually cheating???
Your comment is dumb. What if she was cheating? Should she be harmed because of that?
If she’s cheating she’s not suppose to be harmed but is cheating not same as harming your partner too. The guy was very wrong but it’s logical for someone to ask such questions because they’ve been together for 2 years and he has never doubted her, why now? Is it that herself gave reasons for doubt and lack of trust. I hope she decides on what’s best for her.
God just delivered you from the hands of an abusive psycho
Very Intelligent!. He’s an abusive psycho. I’ve been in a relationship with one before.
RUN!!!
Madam u already know what to do ?
If he could be this brutal over a missed call from a man, Honestly, if he sights you hugging a man you are gone..
Na wa for you oh! u are still asking question. A man that beats you before marriage will eventually kill you after marriage. you better run for ur dear life. not being married to him is not the end of the world. Physical abuse is something women should never tolerate before even after marriage becos if you die, no matter whatever judgement is passed on him, it will never bring you back to life. please think with your head not your heart.
With the no. Of women that have lost their lives to a violent husband I don’t understand why you should be asking this question. Are you suicidal? Please run for your life. Take it from me. I ran. Today I am blessed with a lovely man who loves and protects me and my daughter.
Don’t mind your mother oooo. Run for ur life oooo
Lady,
A broken engagement is better than a divorce.
A broken engagement is far better than a marriage of psychosocial torture.
A broken engagement is far better than a marriage of physical torture.
A broken engagement is better than a marriage of censorship and denial of rights.
A broken engagement is far better than a MASTER-SLAVE RELATIONSHIP. BE ADVISED.
but then many ladies are foolish and will refuse to see the writing on the wall.
they will forget that a broken engagement is better than a funeral of murdered foolish wife.
they will forget that better men are still around…go ahead, return his calls…accept his apologies and send a thank you card to that silly mother of yours…go ahead and marry him!
Aboa and kwasea has no combination in Twi otherwise, you would be termed aboakwaseabaa!
Stupid and foolish girl!!
Well! Well!! Well!!!, those dat give comment av all spoken well. I wil nt give any advice/comment till i listen to the other part of dis scene frm the man, ask him one or two question, wich we also involve d lady b4 i could give advice
My dear poster, A lot has been said concerning this issue. My candid advice to you is to run for your life. That man will actually stab you one day or even kill. Don’t be careful over your life.
He is a beast of d highest order,, plss are u sure ur mum is nt involved or has anything to do wit him?
Greetings Poster!
Are you sure the woman whom you call mother is your mum?
Just know that you are blessed to have had the Feb 14th revelation. l believe God wants you to ‘see’. Be wise.
Even if you were cheating, no one should threaten you with a knife!
I just got out of an abusive relationship of 2 months. I was lucky to have seen the knife he would have used on me hidden under the bed. I escaped. God wants to save your life too. Without further ado, pls leave.
U hv 2 cancel d weddin 2 avoid any harrassment or violence
there is no excuse whatsoever for spousal abuse…..its pity sm pple in their comments are saying u shld nt take a decision now,dts is stupid talk,d fact that u guys are not married even makes the decision easier,my advice is that you leave him and even possibly get a restraining order against him,because he could come after you if you leave.I see women who take a stand against abuse as the right thing…….plz be strong in your heart because you will miss the relationship,bt your life is very precious,and you are special,dnt let anyone misuse your life for you……plzzzzzzzzx
do u want a prophet to tell u dt this is who ur man really is? if you really love ur life better leave him n run becos definitely he will do more in d future. As for ur mum, all she cares about is for her to ans a grandmum n notin else. Be wise!!
Pls lady run for your dear life, dont let your mother put you under pressure, when chips are down you are the only one that will carry the bruise and pain and that is only if you are alive to tell the story. Men like your fiance are pretenders, the next thing is to blame the devil . It is better to be late than to be the late. Pls dont wait for second change. Run, run, run, run……,
Wait a minute;;;;all of u saying quit d relationship or wht ever….are u perfect;;;;listen my lady;;;;if u listen 2 sum pple hre…u will end up dying single;;;;;srry abt d maltreatment;;k?;;he s a jealous lover;;;;;all real men are;;there s no end 2 that trait in them;;bottom line;;;;DONT quit d marriage;;;;bt jst be careful….wish u best of luck….D….A.!
What the F,,,,k are you talking about? So she should go ahead and marry a monster for fear of being single. If you are that desperate then ask her for the contact of the monster so you can marry him and be beaten to death. The way some people reason sha, i just can’t deal
Are you high on something?, if this lady were to be your sister, will you advise her to still keep the relationship. Young man relationship is not a do or die affairs, she can still find a man that will treat her well simple
Jxt passing by!!!!;)my dear,RUN
Bab use ur teeth and count ur tongue, he may have carboad in his skeleton. So give ur love sight, try not to blind it. U may reach me shaa, we cud work. God bless u
there is love without jealous,but dis man is heinous, violent,dishonest,distrust n also extremely jealous……though u never can tell d state of mind, bt I will advise u postpone d wedding,atleast to free ur mind n have d chance to think straight ……..then u follow ur mind at the end
RUN RUN RUN FOR YOUR LIFE……. this is a sample of your future if you cantinue .Your mum will not be there to take the beating perhaps you have decided he will improve .He won’t because he is very insecure.A BROKEN COURTSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE…..RUN SIS RUN AS FAST AND FAR AS YOU CAN……. AFRICAN MOTHERS SHA they some times prefare death to shame
ppl will only suggest but u will make the decision, God help u as u give ur life to Jesus first, n then u can pray to him for guidance for he is the perfect counsellor
QUIT if yu must my dear cuz daz jus d real him he jus showed yu. Wot he jus did 2yu is called sample,a tip of d iceberg like de say.
My darling, like so many people have said, run for your life. If he did it once, he will do it again and again and again.
Postpone the wedding. This cannot be swept under the carpet. You will always live in fear of him since he has shown this side of himself, and thank God he did.
If he wants to continue with the relationship, he has to seek help. Professional help. I’m not talking about church o! People who resort to physical violence has psychological issues, and this has to be treated.
If the relationship
Ends because of this, then so be it. You will be fine.
God will help you make the right decision. It is not an easy one. He will strengthen you and uphold you in Jesus mighty Name. Amen.
This is called awareness before decision-making. Since you are aware of this, expect nobody to tell what to make as a decision. People may advise you, but you will make the decision. Please and please, I may not know you but I will never ask you to go ahead with the wedding. He has shown the callibre of a person he is and has given you the opportunity to choose between life and death. Once Bitten Twice Shy.
Hello dear. I knw it’s not an easy decision to make,cos it’s bn 2 yrs of relationship. But,marriage is a lifetime deal U cannot afford to go into blinded by ‘love’ and emotions. A mature man who respects and loves U wud inquire to knw Ur side of d story and understand the situation. Jumping into conclusion like dat with such a reaction,is deadly warning for U,cos issues will arise even when U r married that is common in marriage relationships. What do U think he wud do next? pls pray to God for wisdom and direction on how to go about ds issue. Listen to d comments of most women here who hv even shared their experiences wt U…. don’t b carried away by feelings of pity or what people will say….. they won’t b there if and when things go contrary. Pls be strong and make d right decision… it is well with U.
I beg you to please call of the wedding. Yes people will talk but a few months after they will stop talking. But nobody will stop talking about you being a divorcee or single mother; the latter will be your reality. When we pray to God to speak to us concerning the choice of a life partner, one of the things God does is to show us what the future with that intended partner will look like. God has just shown you that this man will beat you till Kingdom come. If you go ahead to marry him, you will have only yourself to blame.
My dear,i beg you to quit that marriage plan n stop furthé relationship.a man shows his trueself when under stress.he has just dhown you an iceberg of what n who he is.tnk God for you.as for ur mum you have your life to live.she will not b there when you go via fire n hell.
Cancel D Wedding And Move On Or Do U Want To Be Beaten And Called All Sought Of Name For The Rest Of Your Life?.This Is A Stop Sign Revealed By God So It’s Left For You To Heed To It
Madam,
Pls allow the holy spirit to guild your decision and be assured that He will guild you best,pls pray and don’t listen to the crowd of advisers but listen to yourself after the spirit would have guided you.Believe me most women asking you to run will not wait for a second to embrace your man once you quit out of their advise.
XcaGino, am sorry, but you obviously do not have a self worth. Why do you think most women are so cheap to run to a man violent enough to beat a woman he is not even married to….you need to develop and believe in your self. Holyspirit will help you use your God given abilities well to realize what is right and wrong. Holy spirit will not make you to devalue the sacredness of human life….holyspirit has just revealed to her promptly what awaits her in future if she defies her concience to carry on with the marriage. Please, do not give advise that could make you offend the holyspirit. That man can never be a true spiritual head for her, he does not have holyspirit operative on him, why would she or any woman ever want to embrace such a monster. Marriage in about companionship, about happiness.Judge for yourself if thats the kind of life the man can give…… too bad there are still women with small mind and brain like you, the man might get a chance to have a girlfriend or better still a gloomy puppy wife, whose lifespan would have been shortened….Mchewwwwww!
Honestly, if I were in your shoes, I would leave the guy without looking back….but just in case you have concluded that he guy is your final bus stop, pls go and become a black belter for the sake of the days of war ahead of you….it simply is your choice !!!
Go back to God and pray very very very well with fasting in the middle of the night, naked yourself, cry to God seriously before you go into it, what was behind his attitude God will tell you, the future of the relationship he will tell u, if it is ur husband God will tell you during the prayer, that is my simple advice. Solution to your problem is JESUS CHRIST.
Am a man and will not advice my sister to stick to such fella. If you are 100% sure you were not having affair with the other guy, then you should call it s quit. The man can do worst thing once you are married at the slightest suspicion more so now that he has your mum on his side.
RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A broken relationship/courtship is far beta dan a broken marriage. He has jes shown u his real self so I’ll advice to give a break. since he has gotten guts to raise his hand & hit u & pretend he was sowi, n u accepted truly he’s sowi, its jes d beginning, it ll continue himself. Any man dat can’t control his anger….……….hmmmmmmm
Run please run, I just ended a wonderful relationship dat was leading to marriage because my ex kept accusing me of spending the night with a previous ex all because I put a stop to sex, so he assumed I was getting it else where.he felt I was too good to be real so all my plea fell on deaf ears. I couldn’t stand his constant accusations so I called it off.I felt in secured because in future he definitely might turn violent towards me .The God who is helping me to heal fast because I am broken , will see you through. AMEN
if he can pull out a knife ND also
pull out ur braids babe wat else are you waiting for?…wake up and smell d coffee, you are beta Dan dat..don’t
settle fr less
D next time it’ll happen, he’d have stabbed u 2 death b4 realizing himself. Better safe Dan sorry .Use ur head, pullout of dat relationship nw
Dear lady, You can see we all have your interest at heart. I really don’t understand why a Lady will choose to be in an abusive relationship. We always end up suffering the consequences at the end. He has shown you his true nature. Forget about the sweet sugar coated apologies cos it will definitely happen again. There’s always someone out there who will respect you and value you. All you need is God and exercise patience. Marriage isn’t worth your death. Be wise oooooooooooo
Please dear,leave while you still can,if he could beat you now,he will give you a double dose of it when you guys are married. Remember you are the one signing those dotted lines and not your mum.leave the relationship and pray to God to give you a sane husband that will treat you like the queen that you are.
My candid advice, your mum won’t be in that marriage with you and she will probably. Have no choice but to also attend you burial, and the mad man will marry another woman, thank God you’ve not said I do yet, as a lady, you have the right to dignity of your person not to be tortured, your guy is a woman beater,so run for your life and get ready to say I do to someone that will appreciate you. Relationship is not a do or die affair.
pls poster, you wil not get what u want on this platform, people, especially ones who has the least clue of marriage issue would give a wrong advice, I’d advice you talk it over with your fiancee, you ar the one wearing the shoe and u know where it hurts, perhaps u did not tel us the other good sides of fiancee over these two years.
secondly, you forgot the Satan is a very crafty dude, who would do everything possible to make u lose ur rightful man, pray now that God should reveal to u more about this man (husband to be) and u should pray against those behavious instead, it’s when you have this kind of challenges in life that u would get advice from people who don’t even have the right/experience/clue over the matter….in this situation am advising u to use it heat instead of ur head cos he head has been beclouded with a lot ill-reasoning.
you should go for counselling better still, both of you should go.
I remember before I got married, a lot of things came up that I almost called off…ranging from in-laws to New developments from my spouse, but lo and behold we are happily married now..m
I could remember what my father-Inlaw me that it is during wedding celebration and burial celebration that u would witness the height of temptation, but if u r strong in Christ, victory shall you reckon.
you may liken it to it own challenges now but it seems different, relax, its the Devil’s handiwork….thank God ur fiancee is remorseful, but pray for him to have a change of….a word is enough for the wise.
good luck to you – from ACOBIS
Cancel the wedding and leave immediately.Thank God you have seen this behaviours before the wedding day.
He will kill you if you dare marry him, marriage is not by force, you have seen the signs early now and you’re among the few lucky once left with a decision, sure it’s not easy leaving a relationship but would you rather be beaten every day till God knows when? .
I have seen abuse first hand, trust me you’d rather not take this path.
I really pray God sees you thru.
When u fear God,u’ll love all He made
Beloved,let us love one another for love is of God and any1 who loves is born of God and knows God.
He doesn’t know God, so he doesn’t love u
#datsall
I once like you my fiancee slapped and beat me because I attended my childhood friend two month to our wedding, I dissolved the wedding though is not easy but I have to travel with my sister and never return until 6 month after and today now am happily married with another man and I heard it from my friends that he use beating his wife almost everyday and I thank God I didn’t married him. so my sister take a bold step now before he turn you to punching bag or even killed you.
my dear God loves you so much that He allowed you to see the other side of him before you say “I do”. pls run for your life……if a guy could beat and threaten you with a knife even after your mum called him to apologize on your behalf then he is capable of killing you. pls don’t just run, flee
Women are becoming increasingly unfaithful and nobody is saying anything about it. Have you ask who called her or what the call was about? I pity women of there generation.
Are you saying men don’t cheat? How many men get beaten and maimed for cheating? Is being violent justified because she cheated? Its people like you who need a reorientation. Gender based violence can’t be tolerated.
so if women are unfaithful,is beaten them going to make them faithful, any man that lays his hand to beat a woman is a monster. how on earth will you beat someone you claim you love.
I don’t know if you are stupid or mentally deranged. Don’t worry continue, keep hoping he would change after marriage. Your mother who is advising you now would be the first to run to a native doctor, looking for what killed you when in fact she contributed. Wait oh, have you not learnt anything from all the domestic violence going on. Or you are just blinded by love. If you know you love your life and ur future is still far ahead of u, better stop building castles in the air and do the right thing for to urself. Gone are those days when we live our lives to please pple. Be wise
If it ur mum dat is geting married then ignore dat man. but if it u dat will receive d beatings just bear in mind dat dat is wat u will be facing in dat so call marriage. sone men deserve women who can poison them and put them under dia foot. not a wife material. I cos every man who treat his wife like a slave and treat his girl fren like a queen. cos be upon dem.
Beloved, pray and ask God for direction. Dating a man for 2 years is a whole lot of time and I believe both of you have been sleeping together. That is one of the reasons he didn’t trust you. Broken engagement is better than broken marriage. God hate divorce. The worst thing in marriage is beating. Thank God it happened before marriage. Retrieve your self, pray, watch and finally decide. Your mum is not the one to be married. It’s you, so dear ask God for wisdom.. Good luck!!!!
Hun! ds calls for serious caution. Your man obviously is prone to violence when provoked, can u handle that for the rest of your life? What is the whole essence of marriage, is it just to fulfil social obligation? If marriage is to fulfil divine purpose of 2 pple coming 2 geda to be a blessing to their generation, then wait for the right person!
I pity u d earlier d better God has shown u a sign now it’s now left to u to take action dt is right before u get into trouble and not marriage.
My dear, pls run for your life, DON’T marry that man for anything, he will kill you. God has just shown you the real beast in the man, you don’t need a soothsayer to tell you to ru . Abusers can’t change I know cos av been dia, its a cycle dt doesn’t end well, you have issussa, he beats u, apologize and it happens again. You can still walk, your mum is talking out of ignorance, dts what dia mother’s told dem, but it’s not correct,don’t know what else to say but d summary is plssssss runnnnnnn sis