Dear MIMsters: How Do I Mend This Broken Heart?

I woke up this morning again with a heavy heart. It’s been a little over one week since he broke up with me.

Emezie m and I were madly in love with each other, or so I thought. The communication, chats, text messages and everything was lit. He would push away any man that simply admired me and say, ‘No, no, no, babe! You are mine.’ He monitored my every move, he was just so jealous and emotional.

He is a marketer in one of the banks, cute, tall, speaks very well and yes, everyone loved him. He was doing well, and yes, I was doing very well too. But then, I noticed he was so conscious of his phone, passworded it and never let me go through even his pictures. Well, he never went through my phones too.

Whenever he travelled home to see his mum, he blanked me off and wouldn’t call or chat till he got back to town. But I wasn’t bothered… I loved him and thought that was all that mattered. I was so deeply in love that I didn’t want to see any fault. I also knew he was hot tempered but he never hit me, not even for a day, so, it was fine.

I prayed so much for us – I didn’t even take note that we had just been dating for 5 months.

Then, he called me one day and said he was in need of 200,000 to sort some things. I ignored him because I wasn’t too sure he was going to pay me back. I never talked about it again and he didn’t too.

On his birthday which was three weeks ago, he was in another town for training but we talked and chatted all through. When he got back a week later, he came to my office and said he missed me and just came around to see me. It was a Monday.

On Tuesday, I spent the night at his place and gave him all the birthday gifts I got him. He was so excited. The next morning, he left early to work. I dressed up too and left. I never heard from him again until Friday evening when he called and broke up with me. He said the relationship wasn’t going to lead us anywhere, that we are not compatible, he cannot marry me and wants to start dating someone he would get married to.

I was too shocked to say a word. Just like that? I couldn’t even believe it, tears just couldn’t stop flowing. What a black Friday for me. I called back later but he never picked. Oh, I cried all through the night. I was shocked. I thought he loved me, now I know better.

The next day, he picked my call. I only wanted to be sure he meant everything he said to me and when I asked, he said, ‘Yes I can’t joke with something serious like this.’

I remember him every day and wish him well. He broke my heart but I have forgiven him. I am trying to move on but don’t know how. I just pray he is happier wherever he is.