I want to know if all mothers-in-law are bad. I am saying this because I have known my mother-in-law since birth and I perceive her to be very prayerful, helpful and someone who doesn’t like trouble. My husband is her only male child and this makes them very close.
I love my mother-in-law with all my heart but my mum tells me to be careful as my grandmother (my mum’s mother-in-law) never treated her right. Anytime I want to go and stay with my mother-in-law, my mum objects.
The issue now is, I have a 10-month-old baby and it recently became possible for me to join my husband overseas for just a month but my mum is objecting bitterly because:
- She does not want me to wean the baby and says he would fall sick if I wean him and leave.
- She does not want my mother-in- law to take care of the baby while I am away. She objected strongly when I decided to give my child to my mother-in-law to take care of when I resumed work after maternity leave and had to leave the baby with a total stranger who gave my baby cough mixture instead of paracetamol syrup.
- She thinks I have to take the baby along because he’s still a baby, yet, we are not financially sound to afford that.
Mothers in the house, kindly help me out of this situation as I don’t know whether to listen to my husband and join him for the holidays and save my marriage or listen to my mother.
P.S: My mum also left us to go the States and we (4 of us) have practically been on our own since then.
My husband also feels my mother does not like his family, though I have not told him the reasons my mother doesn’t want me to leave the baby behind.
My mother-in-law is a retired educationist and so is my father-in-law. They leave in a big house alone and will feel honoured to have their grandson with them this Christmas. Did I mention my son just started walking? Is anything wrong with leaving him with them for just one month? Kindly advise me.