Six year ago after my service, I went in search for a job in an oil company. In the process I met my husband. He promised to help me secure a job because he was working there. One thing led to another, we became friends and got married.
While we were still dating, I noticed he was married. I tried to quit but because I came from a poor family & needed that job desperately I stayed put but tried as much as I could to hide the relationship from his wife because it was my first time of dating a married man.
In a short time precisely 2-years after we met, he broke up with his wife on the basis that she was living a fettish life. She had taken his clothes to spiritualists. Her in laws caught her and asked her to take them to the church to verify but she drove them round the town and couldn’t take them to the church.
However, the major problem started when he read a text message on her phone in which she advised her sister to go and blind her husband’s eyes spiritually. This made him run away from home.
A family meeting was called for the judgement but she and her people refused to come, instead she parked her things with her 2 kids and left which eventually led to a divorce.
A year later, the man proposed to me. Initially I refused but was convinced by his friends and family members. They told me how bad his ex and her mum were.
To the story short, I finally got married to him and the marriage is blessed with 2 girls. Now, he’s planning to go and bring back his ex wife. His reason is that he wants to give his children proper fatherly attention but my mind is tells me it is because he wants a male child. Now they are seeking for my consent. Pls should I give my consent? What will be my position in the marriage? Or should I quit with my children? I am confused, though he still shows me love.