My dear mother is ripping my home apart. I need advice and suggestions and how to manage the aftermath.
I am a 37 year old and been married now for 4 years without a child with my husband. I had a child 16-years-ago for a man who is now late. My husband also has a daughter who lives with us.
My mum called my husband and told him my daughter is a witch and said a lot of stuff that really scared my husband and told him not to tell me. I noticed my husband’s behavior changed drastically during that period. He got offended easily and would sometimes reject my food and no longer asked about my daughter.
Months later, when he could no longer hide it anymore, he told me what my mother told him – that my daughter is a witch, and advising him not to get close to her.
All these while my daughter has been living with her paternal grandmother in Lagos. After hearing this from my husband, I cried and wailed, sad that my own mother could do this to me.
Then, I called my sister and and told her everything in tears. My sister confronted my mum who denied saying those things, thereby calling my husband a liar. I was dumbfounded and confused. Meanwhile, my home has been boiling.
Later, the truth was revealed when my mum admitted she told my husband those painful things about my daughter.
But this is what it has degenerated to: I want my daughter around me, but my husband has said no, threatening to institute a divorce if I bring her to live with us. My daughter is just 16, at the stage where she needs proper guidance and a strong parental presence in her life. My heart beats for her but I am so afraid and confused about what to do.