I want your unbiased candid advice on this matter. Is it a crime for me to love my daughter and not her mother?
While we were at the University 8 years ago, I got my girlfriend pregnant and she had a beautiful girl. We finished school but drifted apart because she went on to do her NYSC and started working at a very good firm. She started dated other guys, at least I’m aware of two of them. She seemed to be well paid. I see pictures of her doing well on Facebook. I still continued to keep in touch with my daughter through her.
I wasn’t doing well initially. I struggled really hard, but a few years down the line, my breakthrough came. I got a job at an oil company and was transferred to its sister company in the US. I started taking better care of my daughter; changed her school to an international school. I tried to stay in my daughter’s life and we have a very beautiful relationship.
Now, the problem is my ex is trying to stage a come back. I ignored her moves but she’s gotten her mum to come and talk to me. I told her mum that I have a fiancee which is true but that doesn’t seem to stop them. As soon as they heard that I now I have a fiancee, they’ve been making it difficult for me to have access to my daughter. I used to skype with my daughter almost everyday, I got her a computer, pay her monthly internet bill so I can reach her on Skype but now, they won’t allow me.
My ex picks my calls and gives me one excuse or the other. It’s either she has gone to bed or doing home work or she’s at an aunt’s house. I don’t know. What could be going on? I love my daughter but I don’t want her mother. Is that a crime or is that enough for them to prevent me from communicating with my daughter? What should I do?