Dear MIMsters: How do I say “No” to my married friend and stand by it?
Criticise me but advice me on how to tell my married friend “No” and stand by it. I am an ardent reader on this page and it has helped me greatly. This is my predicament and I need urgent help.
I met this guy through my female friend during our post graduate program. He wasn’t married then and we became casual friends. He got married and our friendship got deeper, so much so that we even had sex for the first time. We never did this prior to his marriage.
I really felt horrible and guilty afterwards. I promised never to do that again as he was married, but we kept on having sex over and over again. I got pregnant for him twice and and aborted it cause I come from a very strict religious background. He begged me to keep it but I refused. Even after all that, we continued to have sex and he makes me feel like we aren’t doing anything wrong. His wife has an idea of who I am and I am not happy.
I feel terribly disappointed and ashamed of myself. I have prayed and prayed but whenever we are together, we always end up having sex. Please I need help, how do I tell him NO and stand by it?
Meanwhile, I have a boyfriend who worships the ground I walk on, and has not had sex with me. Yet, I have done abortions for another man who is married and complicating my life physically and spiritually. I need all your advise and criticisms.
Thank you.
Speechless. I think you should stop seeing him entirely. It’s not enough for you to say no to sex with him. Stop seeing him completely and end the sexship because this is not friendship to me. He is just using you.
MY SISTER PLEASE STOP, HE IS HAVING HIS CAKE AND EATING IT, WHAT IF YOU WERE MEANT TO HAVE 2 KIDS (GOD FORBID) AND YOU HAVE ABORTED THEM. THE TRUTH IS HE WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS WIFE FOR YOU NO MATTER WHAT. BUT YOUR SELF IN HIS WIFE’S SHOE AND TELL ME HOW YOU WILL FEEL. YOU ARE VERY VERY CHEAP FOR HIM. AVOID HIM TOTALLY AND COMMIT YOURSELF TO GOD, HE WILL DIRECT YOUR PATH. REMAIN BLESS
Its weird how the flesh constantly wins when we conscientiously know that what we are doing is wrong. My sister if anything….fear the Lord. Fear what He says about sleeping with a married man (cursed 7 generations…so think about your future children I beg you). When God wanted to save mankind, He asked Jesus to do it for Him. However with the union and sanctification of marriage, He did it Himself. That is how much God treasures the covenant of marriage. I do not think you want to be on the receiving end of all the curses that come with meddling in a marriage. STOP seeing this guy and cling to God. IF ANYTHING…….FEAR GOD!
Just imagine. See how this man is using ur brain.Receive sense jaree
Block all contacts please,ALL of it…U have to leave him.its terrible that u are cheating on the guy who adores you,its even horrible that you av aborted twice…Walk away now before any further complications.
delete his numb.stop seing him.avoid him…
i feel for you. the truth is that the guy is just catching fun with you and wasting your time. you enjoy sex with him very much that is why you are hooked. just avoid any thing that will bring the two of you together and focus on more spiritual things. read scriptures that forbid this act and put yourself in his wife’s shoes. constantly tell yourself you can let go and with time you will find yourself overcoming. pray to God to help you. this is not a battle you can fight alone. God sees your heart and will definitely help if you call on him. may the good Lord strengthen as you try to make things right. please focus on the positive side of your boyfriend with time you will begin to like and later love him.
Had it been he loved you, he would have married you cos u met when he was single, my dear don’t let the selfish man deceive you and waist ur time, you might even be in danger if the wife remember you. Turn to God and he will help you.