Dear MIMster: How My Mother’s Discipline Techniques Ruined My Life
With my story, I want to enlighten mothers to be mindful of the kind of discipline technqiues they adopt when raising their children. As the wrong discipline technique could lead to hatred and the child ending up ruined.
It all started during my childhood. My mother loved my sister more than me and she made it so obvious. She would say my sister will be more successful than me which was one big thing for me. At the age of 10, I was raped by my uncle after she sent me out of the house around 1 a.m at night and my dad was on a night duty.
At one point in time, my uncle’s friend raped me again. In all, I was raped about 5 times during my childhood. All through my childhood, secondary school and till date, I never known what is called mother’s love. My mother would cut me with blade, put me to sit on a hot stove, brake my head, put pepper in my vagina, and tie me to the ceiling fan to be beaten.
Then I met a man when I was 16 who promised to send me to school only if I could give him a child. He said he would send me to school one year after the child was born and I agreed. I agreed because I wanted to leave home, not knowing that I was opening another chapter of my suffering. I had the child but I never went back to school and I am 21 already.
I hated my mother all these years. I cannot effectively put into writing what I went through. I am back to my parent’s house and my mom has started the same thing she did with me with my younger sister who is 15 years old. She sent her out last night.
It just made me remember when I begged God to take my life and took poison but I didn’t die. I am sharing my story to advice you to discipline your child with love and make your girl child your best friend.
Sadly, this is how many Nigerian women raise their kids. This is pure barbarism but they don’t see it that way. To them it’s discipline and that’s why a lot of kids are emotionally and mentally detached from their parents. Dear poster I feel your pain. No one should ever have to go through this kind of suffering especially not from a parent. I fear for your well being now that you are back at her house. Is there a way you can leave and go some place else but home? Like go stay with other family members away from her hate. And please have a one on one talk with her about how she’s beginning to treat your kid sister like she did you. Sometimes they are ignorant of their stupid attitudes.
You wonder why a lot of people are so aggressive and angry all their lives.
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My dear, with this story one would ask if truly she is your biological mother or foster mother because no mother in her true senses will. behave this way.