Dear MIMsters: Learn From My Story that Submission is not Foolishness (Part Two)

A while ago, I shared about how I stood by to watch my husband take me for a fool while I thought I was submissive. Now I have learned the hard way that submission is not equal to foolishness. Read here. You can also learn from my story too.

So when the scales fell from my eyes, and I got tired of being taking for a fool, I decided to take matters into my hands.

First, I blocked him from having access to my account without telling him. It was when he wanted to use the card that he found out. All hell let loose but I was prepared for it. He got angry and wanted to beat me, then I told him if lifts a finger on me, I promised him he will spend that night in cell. He was shocked because he has never seen me this way before. Instead, he took his anger out on the doors, slamming all the doors behind him as he went out.

He came back that night and asked me what my plan is. He asked if I want to become the person wearing the trousers in the marriage, and that I now want to control him just because the account is in my name. I told him that I am only making sure that money is not spent anyhow. How can you buy a car without telling me?

I told him that henceforth if he wants money, he has to ask me and tell me what he needs it for. And if he were in my shoes, he would expect me to do the same. He then said that that means I am not prepared to stay married, that over his dead body will a woman that he married control him. I told him, that I am controlling my money and not him.

He called my parents and told them that I have gone loose but he didn’t tell them what he did.

Infact, my eyes have cleared and I am tired of this marriage. Nothing excites me anymore especially as he is a chronic cheat but tries to hide it. Instead of him to calm down and change his ways, he is threatening me. Either way, I am ready.

Will keep you posted.