Dear MIMsters: How Do We Break Free From Our Abusive Relatives?

I read a post about abuse towards kids on this site and this is exactly how our relatives, my Aunty and Uncle treat my siblings and I.

When we became orphans, my uncle and his wife moved in to stay with us because we lived in the family house. For five years now, we have been enduring her abuses that she and my uncle normally tag discipline, yet they treat their three children differently.

We are six of us, first, three girls first and three more boys after. All three girls are graduates and our first is married. My younger sister and I are done with service and are campaigning to move out and live on our own but they won’t let us.

They have even turned our immediate family against us, telling them that we are stubborn and should not be left alone. We have tenants living on the property who have decided to dig their own well with their money and to also get a separate Meter because of the problems my uncle is giving them.

My uncle has also been isolated by our kindred due to his character. Other members of the family like Uncles and our paternal Grandmother who live abroad only listen and take decisions from my uncle because to them we are still too small to decide or to speak.

It is easy for me to leave the house on the claims that I have been given a job in another state but my mind won’t be at rest if I remember my brothers are still here living in this abuse. I have called and begged my Uncles to ask our neighbours to confirm what is really going but they won’t. They insist they don’t want to involve outsiders. The few people they’ve talked to who are also relations are being too sentimental about the whole thing and maintain that we are just stubborn.

My uncle manages and collects rent from my father’s estates. Since my father died, he has refused to tell us how much he gets. The last time he gave me money was during my service year, early last year. He gave me 20k and told me it’s the last money I will get from him.

I am prone to falling ill with malaria and typhoid every month, sometimes twice in a month, yet they have helped me with no treatments. I am left alone to treat myself.

Every month, family members living in the USA send monies to my uncle for us the orphans but my uncle keeps hoarding it, saying that when our first boy comes of age, they will make accounts and give every details.

This uncle of mine is currently jobless while his wife is a tailor. He worked as a custom officer and was jailed for sometime due to his misconduct and later worked as a banker and was jailed again due to another misconduct. Since then, he has gone from one failed business to another.

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This same people have succeeded in instilling fear into our first boy so much that he fears them. They treat him like nothing even though he is the only one amongst us who goes out of his way to meet their unending demands. Yet they tell him hurtful words that always keeps him thinking.