Hello MIMsters, I need your advice on what to do right now. I am at a crossroad and I feel like dying. I fear that I would soon become a disgrace to my family.
I am a 27 years old lady who survives on a menial job. I graduated in 2015, ever since, I have been trying to work and save money to go back and complete my HND by next year. I live in the city with my youngest sister who came for a vacation job, because her school is on
Now, this is my dilemma: I met a man around June this year, and he made it clear that he wanted a serious relationship that would lead to marriage.
We started dating, and by September we had become very close. I started visiting him, and I even introduced him to my sister.
He claimed he loved me, and I considered the fact that he appeared quite matured and responsible. He was 37, so I stupidly threw all caution to the wind. Last week, I discovered that I am pregnant for him, and when I told
him about it, his response wasn’t pleasant.
He got angry and started calling me all sorts of names; he asked me if I was a child and didn’t know what to do like other girls. He asked me to come for an abortion on Monday; otherwise he is out of the relationship. He told me to stop calling him; he even went as far as blocking me on all social media platforms.
He is a Medical Doctor completing his horsemanship. Right now, I am the most confused human being on earth. I am so frustrated, destabilized, and
depressed. All I can think of now is leaving this earth for good.
I don’t even know how to face my parents & siblings. I don’t know whether I should go for the abortion or not. If I decide not to abort it, I fear I will not be able to carter for myself and the baby’s needs. Secondly, if I am to keep the baby I will have to leave the job because it is stressful. My challenges are so numerous; please I desperately need your advice. Thank you